What are the Pregnancy Blues and how can you Overcome them?

Over the past few weeks, I have been a bit ashamed to admit it out loud, when I know I shouldn’t be. the pregnancy blues are a perfectly normal thing to experience, but I just feel slight failure and disappointment.

You see, being pregnant is a marvellous experience for the most part, and there are so many wonderful women around the world who don’t even get the chance to experience it. So what right does a 28 week long pregnant woman have to complain about her situation of emotion? Well, to be honest, she gets every right.

I have experienced the odd  occasion of feeling a bit bluesy, maybe even a little depressed and down beaten.  It won’t be that I feel sad necessarily, but there is a sort of sad atmosphere going on inside of my head that I just cannot shake. I go through these periods of time frequently throughout my life, but the past 5 months have been nothing short of perfect and blissful. 

So why is it that nowadays, 6 months pregnant, I find myself standing in the shower in the morning with no song to sing and just staring blankly at the corner of the tiles on the wall opposite me without a thought, or shred of emotion on my face? Is it normal to feel slightly… numb inside? Is the feeling multiplied by my intense hormonal mood swings? Perhaps! That could explain why I have those days where every little thing makes me blubber like a baby when I don’t even feel a tickle of sadness or upset, or anything really. Is it normal to feel slightly… numb inside?

The answer is yes. I would put it down to antenatal depression, but the thing is, this feeling is not a stranger to me. I have experienced this exact sense of “ennui” before, many times. But its nothing to worry about because everytime I experience it, it goes away overtime and I realise that it is only temporary. 

Still, though, I feel slightly guilty over the fact that I feel this way when I am carrying a miracle within me. I am filled up with 2 hearts beating away contently and sharing these beautiful “bump and me” moments. I am truly so so happy but I am just going through a bit of a rut, and that’s perfectly normal! I think adding the pressure of remaining positive and happy for everyone can be a bit too much and I think this makes the situation worse.

Overcoming the Pregnancy Blues by…

Eating Healthier

It seems like one of those things that everyone tells people to do, and it can make us question if it really has any weight of truth, but it does. Eating healthier, cleaner and greener meals and snacks can actually help our mentality! I found that by cutting out some of the crappier foods I was consuming from cravings, I regained a sense of control and felt better with less guilt.  It also helps me to think that I am giving my baby the best start to life with much needed proteins and legumes!

Pregnancy Blues

Exercising Gently

I know, I know… Exercising while you are pregnant is a bit of a difficult one. In my opinion and in my experience, its not sensible to do anything too intense, ie jogging as it takes too long to recover for me. I decided recently that I am getting back into swimming. Apparently swimming is a great, gentle way of exercising aching muscles and your weightlessness in the water can actually help to alleviate some of the pains. We got to stay fit and healthy some way! Exercising releases those endorphins that swim around your body. I always refer to endorphins as little dolphins of hope as I can just imagine them swimming about, flipping and spinning happily within your body and it automatically makes me feel happier. By doing some gentle exercise for about 30 minutes 3 times a week, you will be doing yourself a kindness!

Stop putting pressure on yourself

Its all too easy for pregnant ladies to feel guilty for complaining about our qualms. Over the past few weeks I have really noticed this being the reality for me, but it hit me that I shouldn’t! Growing a baby is hard work, and I think its a miracle that we can get through it, especially when aches and pains can get a bit too overbearing sometimes. We have earned the right to have a little whine every now and then. Read my thoughts on this matter by clicking here. By adding additional pressure to yourself, you are making things worse mentally. You are bottling up the weird unexplainable emotions that you are experiencing and that really is no way to feel better. Accept the fact that you are feeling low, but don’t let it become you! 

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Know that it will all be worth it- write down your worries about the baby coming

Some nights when I was growing up, I would remain awake in bed for hours upon hours worrying about things that were outwith my control… school… friends… family… just the usual things that everyone worries about. For some reason these worries would remain at the front of my mind for hours upon hours and I would get no relief whatsoever until I got them down on paper. I know that not all people work the same way, but for me, writing my woes down helps me to express them, which relieves some of the frustration pent up in my mind.

With pregnancy, comes worry, comes anxiety and panic sometimes. We just have to find a way to deal with it so it doesn’t ride its way throughout the 9 months. What are your fears or worries about having your baby? The room available? The fact that your life going to change drastically? Being able to afford life? Note down your worries. Sometimes just getting them out on paper can help you realise that these issues are fixable if you give it some logical thought. Writing them down turns the tidal waves of worry into small, manageable and hoppable waves that you can overcome.

Speak to someone

If your thoughts are overburdening your mind to the point you can notice yourself getting quieter and quieter with those you love, maybe you can’t smile as much as you did during the first trimester, or you might find yourself becoming less excited for the little bundle of joy to join you in your journey through life. These are all perfectly normal feelings that pregnant women experience and its extremely okay to talk about without feeling judged. Avoid those who may judge you about these things and talk it over with your midwife, your partner, your parents, your siblings, your friends, heck… talk to me about them if you need an ear! Sometimes you just need to hear someone saying out loud that you aren’t going crazy, that the thoughts you are having are perfectly normal. Without sounding ridiculously corny, a problem shared is a problem halved and once I speak about the issues I experience, with my wonderful partner or family, I always feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Other parents will know exactly how you feel usually and might even be able to offer a bit of hope for you with their advice- afterall, they have been through it all before. 

Pregnancy Blues

Take care of yourself

This tip is one of the most important in my book. How are you ever going to start feeling happier if you are abandoning yourself? When the baby comes, you are not going to get much time to yourself, so enjoy it while you can. Enjoy the last few months that you will have before your baby arrive and take yourself out for a hair cut, or get your nails done… even better, spring out some cash and get a foot massage! If you are on a budget, treat yourself to a facial, a hot bubble bath, or purchase a lush bath bomb or massage bar and luxuriate yourself. This time is wonderful and its yours. Do with it what you want and enjoy it. You will feel better, more positive and happier soon. I promise!

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Pregnant Lady FOMO- a Taste of what’s to come…

FOMO

Ah, FOMO.

The dictionary defines FOMO as “anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media”, or its the “Fear of Missing Out”. You can read all about FOMO in Stella Hudgen’s recent blog post, which I encountered over Instagram and its what inspired me to write about the subject from a pregnant woman’s point of view. 
I have had FOMO, my friends have had FOMO, your Granny’s Granny probably had FOMO at some point in her life. Babies get it too! You tend to see that they won’t sleep when there is lots going on around them. My nephew was adorably guilty of this when he was just a few weeks old; we would head over to their house, hang out for the day and as soon as Riley was put to his crib, he would cry for fear of being left out. 
My point is that everybody experiences FOMO at some point in their life (unless you are a person who is involved in EVERYTHING you could possibly ever want to be involved in, and in that case then you might have FOMO of the concept of FOMO, so technically, you might still get FOMO) and its perfectly normal! 

Even though its normal, FOMO can suck!

FOMO only becomes a real problem when it is recurring for a person. Of course, people can combat it by making themselves more available for friends and social invitations, or by saving up enough money to buy those concert tickets that they know they would miss out on otherwise. But what if a person has less of a chance to combat it though?
I’m thinking about Mums, Dads and expecting Mums and Dads.

Pregnant Lady FOMO

FOMO

I was watching “The Let Down” on Netflix recently (a Netflix original show), which is pretty hilarious but it also induced a whole set of nerves, fear and realism to me as a pregnant woman of what to expect when my gorgeous wee Squish is born. The show follows Audrey, a Mother of 1 new-born baby, Stevie, who is going through the adjustment period of having just given birth to getting used to being responsible for a new human being, struggling with the support available from her friends, family and her work-obsessed boyfriend. She joins a group of new Mothers in an AA-like meeting each week and shares her battles with them all. Its a pretty good show and worth a shout!
I think I have been under a false illusion of what maternity leave will be like because this show has suggested to me the realities of a being a brand new Mum, even with a partner present. I can’t decide if I should recommend this show to the pregnant ladies that I know, for fear of freaking them out, but I also don’t want them to be blind sided with how strenuous and emotionally turbulent the experience seems to be with being a brand new parent.  I definitely feel like its a good suggestion to a new Mum to prove that the struggles she might be experiencing are not out of the norm and that no matter how bad it can get, she is truly never alone.
ANYWAYS, the show sort of highlighted my growing suspicions of FOMO being a bit of a problem when a baby is born.
I don’t enjoy the feeling of missing out on things, but being an introvert, I have come to terms with the fact that FOMO might be a common theme in my life throughout. What worries me is that it WILL become more prevalent when friends are celebrating their life accomplishments and don’t have as much time to spend with the new Mum of the group. Or not being able to go to as many concerts or seeing couples heading out for a last minute holiday that they booked. 
I find that it has always been a bit of a burden on expecting Mothers of not being able to complain about anything like this because outsiders tend to make them feel bad about it by saying things like “Well, you are the one that got pregnant”, or that “their needs come after the baby’s”. I feel that expecting Mothers are made to feel a gut wrenching guilt if they share their complaints out loud and I have to say that its complete nonsense. 
Its natural to feel like independence, freedom, self-identity is sailing away during pregnancy, because when the baby is here, that’s it. The baby comes first and foremost all the time, and for some Mothers I think this must be really difficult to deal with. I think that all Mothers (expecting included) should be given the chance to have a whine every now and then about how things are going without being made to feel the guilt that is imparted on them as soon as something negative exits their lips. Stifling these feelings up can not be healthy and could even lead to eventual resentment towards to the situation.

FOMO for pregnant ladies

FOMO might occur for pregnant ladies when her friends are going out to celebrate birthdays at clubs. They might not want to join in because they feel judged of being in a drinking atmosphere when heavily pregnant, even if no alcohol was consumed by the pregnant lady. 
FOMO might occur for pregnant ladies when her partner is taking part in an activity that she would love to do but can’t because she is keeping the foetus safe. 
FOMO might occur for pregnant ladies when she is prohibited to leaving the house because of round ligament pain or exhaustion.

The Flip-side of FOMO when pregnant

FOMO

BUT…. “missing out” doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
Staying in while pregnant can allow pregnant ladies to bond with their bump. It can allow them the chance to prepare by shopping online for the nursery décor. It could allow them to feel better for the weekend coming so that she can leave the house at some point. She can organise nights in with her friends with snacks and movies and have a right good old catch up! She can convince her partner to stay at home with her and create psychic predictions of what their baby will look like or what they will do when they are older, or come up with plans about how to make the incoming life the best thing possible. 
My point is that FOMO, while it can suck at the time, is not the end of the world. The great thing about FOMO is that it might not last long at all; just the length of the activity that the person is missing out on, and then,  life goes on. 
Remembering that everybody gets the fear of missing out and that soon enough you will be having FOMO relating to the baby about missing first smiles or first steps… not so much the importance of keeping up appearances at nights out etc, makes FOMO slightly more easy to deal with. Babies make everything worth it; not just the labour and the stretch marks, but even the emotional turbulence that you experience as a mother (expecting included).
Do you get FOMO as a pregnant woman or Mother? What are some ways that you combatted the feeling?
 
 
 
 

Hints and Tips for Maternity shoots

There is something to be said about the endless possibilities of maternity photos. They allow your 9 months of miracle-baking to last a lifetime and will help you to remember the true, raw and natural beauty of your body for ever. Our bodies will never stop changing throughout our lives, but the idea of capturing such a powerful period of time is truly something else.

I self-run my own maternity photoshoots as I would find it difficult to be as comfortable with a photographer as I do myself. This is such a personal time, and I like to imagine it as an activity that me and squish are able to do together since we are both working the camera.

Trust me when I say that taking maternity photos is a fun experience, but also trust me when I say that if you are doing it yourself, you will have a giggle a few times at the awkward poses you make trying to make the bump look more flattering. I noticed this at my earliest “shoots” where I was not used to the bump in any way whatsoever and it was very evident in the pictures I took… just look….

20 weeks

I mean, hello… dear caught in headlights much?

So what are some tips on posture and body positioning for a maternity self-run photoshoot?

The “Thigh Swivel”

I find that sometimes when taking a picture of myself front facing can lead to a slightly chubby façade. I obviously do not like this, but one thing I found that combats this for me, is the “Thigh Swivel”, which is basically what you do to make yourself appear slightly slimmer but doesn’t denounce your gorgeous bump- it actually shows it off more, which is what we really want in our maternity photos.

Notice how in these pictures that one side of the thigh is being shown more than the other? It oddly draws your bottom half in which can give the illusion of a slightly larger bump but a leaner stance. Also, excuse the camel toe in the middle picture, I am aware of this but I love the way my body looks so not caring over here!

“The Bump Cradler”

We have seen (and drooled over) Khloe Kardashian’s gorgeous maternity bumps where she cradles her delightful baby girl (and oddly enough, she felt she had to defend her poses and explain why she felt the need to cradle the baby… I mean really? Can’t we just let a mama-to-be decide her own photograph poses please?), and there have been countless other gorgeous maternity photos where the mama-to-be holds onto her stomach which can project her Mother Bear instincts in protection, her love for her soon-to-be child, and the excitement of the fact that she just can’t wait to hold her baby in her arms for the first time. 

I know that I cradle my bump in practically all of the pictures I take of myself. I find it to be comforting and a lovely touch, as well as the fact that it can highlight the true size of my bump. 

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I just love to feel that she is within and its such a special moment. You can cradle your bump in whatever way you wish, but I would always suggest having a hand touching the diagonal side of your bump to give it dimension and the other hand over the top of your bump and across your diaphragm. I think this allows anyone to see the true size of your belly and you are also showing your nurturing angle. 

“Tilt-a-head”

You will notice in the pictures on my Maternity Shoot Inpo page that my head is always tilted one way or another. I find that keeping your head dead straight is never an option if you want a flattering picture. The main reason I do this in any pictures, let alone Maternity pictures is because I am extremely lucky in that whenever I gain any type of weight, it goes straight to under my jaw. Yupp, I’m talking 5 chin Emma over here. 

Its not an option for me to keep my head in a naturally straight position for photos, unless I want to show off my extra chins. 

So what I do is observe in the mirror before taking any pictures, which angle works best for me to show a more profound jawline- and its always by tilting. It will feel natural when taking the pictures! But the reason I suggested this is because, I know that many mamas-to-be are suffering from increased water retention and it can make our faces appear slightly more puffy. And while its not a problem to capture the rawness of pregnancy in our maternity photos, it might not be one of those side affects that we want to capture for a lifetime. 

You should try to tilt your head in different angles during your self-run maternity photoshoot. You are bound to find an angle that works for you!

Looking down can symbolise your protective gaze of your baby-to-be, looking up might show a more “holy-esque” angle. 

Dressing for the occasion

I know that there are thousands and millions of mamas who have taken the most stunning maternity photos, drenched in silks, laces and gorgeous floor length gowns, but there are also mamas like me who likes to keep things simple. Don’t get me wrong, I will be taking these stunning pictures too in mountainous areas but only when I am a bit further along and the bump is more pronounced. In the meantime, I am using the smaller bump as a means to prepare and get ready for the bigger and more production-y photoshoots to come when I am 30+ weeks pregnant. 

For the period of about 15 weeks to now (24 weeks), I have been keeping it simple and fresh by wearing very little but trying to maintain a classic vibe. For the shoot that I did at 20 weeks, I used some coral coloured crepe fabric and fashioned a bandeau (which I tied into my bra) and skirt (which was tucked into my undies) and exposed my belly. The colour complimented my skin tone and with the warm overlay I edited the pictures with, It really made the colours pop in my opinion. 

In my most recent shoot, I decided to keep it simple again with a black crop top and undies, but added a little pattern by tying a gorgeous head scarf around my noggin. It added the extra something that this photo otherwise lacked against the dark background.

Is that all?

Well I would say that this post will be updated as I continue throughout my pregnancy as there will be many more shoots to come and that I would love to share with you. Hoping to ensure the grandeur improves as well as my camera skills- lord knows I am no photographer. But for now, these are the main tips I would suggest for your maternity photos and I hope you enjoy them!

Good luck, and be sure to share the results with me!

 

Moving Home While Pregnant

Is it sensible to move home while pregnant?

Heck no! But Heck Yes! It might not be the easiest time in your life when moving homes what with all the cleaning, packing and transporting of things, but, it might be necessary for when you are growing a brand new human.

Moving home while pregnant

Is it Stressful to move home while pregnant?

Heck yes! Can you believe that it has been said that moving homes can be more stressful than a divorce?! I certainly can! It all depends on how prepared you are, but throwing a house move spanner into the pregnancy works can be even worse. Depending on how far along you are, you might have your job cut out for you and its important to ask for help where possible. Trust me when I say, that my partner has basically done the moving for us and I have just been cleaning and unpacking where I can and even then I am exhausted, stressed and worn out!

Please don’t hold yourself under any illusion, no matter how prepared you might think you are, there is always room for stress when moving and being pregnant, you have to look out for it. 

Why move home when pregnant, then?

There could be a multitude of reasons behind moving home while pregnant, such as not there not being enough room in the house you currently live in for a baby, maybe you have some annoyingly loud neighbours, or perhaps you want garden space for your child to play in when they get older. Etc. etc., the list is endless!

For me, moving home while pregnant was the only option because I was living in a maisonette 2 storey house which has been built on top of another house, and the stairs were tricky with just a dog to walk down let alone a dog and a pram. I won’t even go into detail about how much I struggled with the stairs during my pregnancy with sciatic pain making it almost impossible to move my left leg, and when the snow and ice came, the stairs became treacherous mountains of white!

I loved my home; its a sanctuary for me, my landlord is wonderful, the locale is ideal, transport is perfect (we don’t drive), and there are parks dotted around the place in every angle that are perfect for dog walks! It was the first home that my Romanian Rescue dog ever had, it was where we celebrated my graduation from Uni (and its home to my blood, sweat and tears being shed during the final year at Uni). It was the place that I lost my Airbnb Hosting virginity to and loved it. We have a balcony that overlooks a communal garden area which is a complete suntrap and the neighbourhood constantly smelt loosely of the delicious food shops across the road.

The flat that we moved to in March 2018 is more open plan, on the ground floor (hallelujah!) and dog friendly! We got our keys at the beginning of March and have been moving in over the month very slowly and I think that this is what has made the moving journey a bit easier on us (and me being pregnant). Thankfully, boyfriend has been doing all the extreme lifting and helping delivery guys to deliver our furniture and has been assembling furniture too (he is my hero).  I have been focusing my time on cleaning our home and cleaning the new flat to a nice standard, while packing things and transporting suitcases each day by train and a short walk. 

Tips on Moving Home While Pregnant

Moving Home while pregnant

Ask for help and support where you can

  • I asked my parents to help me move things and they very kindly offered to drive our things to our new flat over a weekend. It took them about 4 drives in total but they were happy to help! You will find that your family and friends will naturally be concerned about you, so they will most likely be able to support you when you need it.

Pack your things…

  • As early as you can and as tidy as you can
  • Remain organised! Easier said than done, but if you have this notion in your head each day you wake up, you will automatically get your thinking cap on. I would advise writing down your plans because lord knows pregnancy brain will come in and mess things up!
  • Label your boxes. DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT fling things into bags and boxes willy nilly because you will end up with an overwhelming flummox when opening boxes and finding a pair of kitchen scissors and also your best lingerie. Try to keep the boxes filled with items from the same place so that you are focusing on that one location when you are moving.

Move out of your old home

  • Set your move-out date as late as you can and set out an action plan for cleaning, packing and booking vans etc. Let me know if you want my template for action plans- they are perfect!
  • Move over your things gradually if this is possible.
  • Clean! Nowadays there are actually cleaning companies that are there to provide tenancy clear out services. You can usually find these services easily by doing a search for them in Google including the local area that you are needing the services to be run. This means less back ache for you and less chance for you to inhale any harmful cleaning chemicals. 
  • If you go forward with cleaning the home yourself, consider purchasing a mask from Amazon, such as this one to prevent you from breathing in the harmful cleaning chemicals, such as bleach! Its too easy to forget that bleach is extremely harmful to our lungs and skin, especially when we use it often for basic cleaning jobs. Ensure you have the windows open and the room ventilated.
  • Take pictures of any damage to the property and share these with your landlord if you have been renting so that your mind can be rested when you have moved out and are waiting on your security deposit to be returned to you. Also take pictures of just about everything so that if the landlord says that you have broken something that you know you left in a good condition, you have proof! You don’t want the worry of potentially not seeing your security deposit being put into your account in the back of your mind, so cover all bases.Moving Home While Pregnant

Moving Vans and Transport

  • As I said before, my parents very kindly offered to help us move most of our things to our new flat by driving their car for us (we both can’t drive at the moment). So I would always ALWAYS suggest asking for help from a friend or family member first before forking out lots of money for a Moving Truck hire. 
  • Organise any moving van hire as far in advance as possible. Ensure you have your new keys when you are doing the move.
  • Have some money set aside for unexpected costs! My Delivery drivers ended up taking the absolute P*ss when they ended up going the incorrect journey to add an additional hour onto the hiring time that I booked and they had the audacity to ask for a further £20! I couldn’t quite believe it, but seeing as I was at work and my boyfriend was dealing with it, we paid them.  Unwillingly. My point was that if we had just budgeted in what our estimations were without any buffer amounts, then we would have been seriously up Sh*t Creek without a paddle. Even setting yourself an additional £100 can help.
  • Ensure you ask your delivery drivers (if you are hiring them too), that they can do the heavy lifting. Not trying to set us back by hundreds of years here ladies, but in all honesty, we cannot afford to be lifting sofas and fridges when we are carrying precious cargo! I won’t stand for it, so please enlist the help of a professional who can manage it. Afterall you don’t want to be out of the game for the next week when you need to unpack everything around you because you did your back in by lifting a bed. 

 

Moving into your new home and unpacking your life

  • Get your bed set up as a matter of priority. Trust me, ladies (pregnant ladies especially), you are going to want to ensure you have a place of comfort ready for you to jump into (or depending on how pregnant you are, wiggle into ever so carefully). Once you have spent the day trying to unpack your things, you will definitely just want to snuggle up into your nice comfy bed and the familiar bedsheets can make it automatically feel like a place called home. 
  • If you did a bit of a clearance before you packed, I would advise you should still go through your boxed belongings while unpacking and being as tough as nails in deciding whether or not to keep some of the contents. Nothing feels better than starting fresh than feeling like you have space. This is especially important if you are downsizing your home and you are wanting to have enough room for a baby to take over the place. 
  • Keep your back straight and bend with the knees when possible. You are pregnant, you are going to be feeling pressure and tiredness in all areas of your body and that’s without the process of moving being thrown in. 

You got this Mama…

Moving home while pregnant

You are probably going to be emotional. This time of life is difficult- leaving your old home where you created memories and stories, of which you will be telling your growing child throughout their life. You have to remember that its okay to be emotional! Blame it entirely on your hormones if that makes you feel better, but don’t hide it. This will only add to your stress levels. Cry it out, take lots of pictures of your last home, and get ready to make lots of new amazing memories in your new home with your new baby and growing family. I made a gorgeous photo album that will be getting sent away to Photobox soon to have our memories printed out on a photobook which we can keep forever. This is a nice way to remember everything that went on in that little home of ours. 

Gals, there are plenty of moving home tips but I would really suggest that you take heed of what I have suggested! Having done the move, and having made my own mistakes due to pregnancy, I have been there and done that… some may even say I have got the t-shirt too. I am still unpacking and nothing in my body makes me want to unpack anything further, but its got to be done!

The great thing about unpacking is that there is no rush. You don’t have to have a strict date to have everything settled and out and about! You have time, so please don’t stress once you have handed back your keys of your old place. You got this Mamas, I believe in you!

Feeling your baby for the first time… What does it really feel like?

This is my first pregnancy, I am currently 22 weeks pregnant and I have felt my baby kick since about week 19. When I was waiting for the kicking to start, I was impatient! I couldn’t wait until I was able to feel the life of my baby moving around and exploring the untouched areas of my uterus. So, what is it really like to be feeling your baby for the first time??  

What does the Internet say about how it feels when the baby starts to kick?

Feeling your baby for the first time

I was researching when it is most likely that you can feel your baby move for the first time and I found out that it was supposed to be around week 18 and onwards usually.  

I was researching what it was supposed to feel like when feeling your baby for the first time and found that it was supposed to feel like butterflies, or a flutter  of little bubbles within your lower abdomen. 

I was researching how long it took until the baby kicks could be felt on the outside and be seen- and while I still don’t necessarily have a definitive answer for this yet as I haven’t yet experienced it, I read that it can occur within week 21 onwards so here is hoping! Update: I am now 22 weeks pregnant and I saw the beauty that is my baby moving about within me! Such an amazing feeling and feels so adorable as she tries to make herself more comfortable in there. While there are no feet or hands pushing out in an extra terrestrial fashion just yet, I can see little ripples and teeny tiny bumps when I can feel them now. Its awesome!

I am just so excited to feel every stage of my pregnancy, it is the most incredible journey that a body can go through and I am so beyond proud and happy to be experiencing it.

While I did a tonne of research, I felt like nothing that I read really indicated exactly what it would feel like the first time I felt the baby. Sure its true that in first time pregnancies, women can’t always feel the movements because they don’t know what to be on the look out for, but I was passionately convincing myself that any amount of “bubbly” sensations or fluttering was the baby kicking. 

My experience of feeling baby for the first time…

SO let me explain exactly what it feels like to me, and maybe this will help you to understand if what you are feeling is the baby moving (trust me, you will know when its your baby… you will just know). Remember, this is coming from a first time around Mama to be so if you are in the same boat, it may be a similar experience for you.

Diving on in

So at about 18 weeks, I began feeling a bubbly sensation in my lower tummy, but it admittedly felt a bit like a build of wind- you know the swirling and churning feeling in your stomach that you get right when you are about to release a toot? But the trouble was that no toots ever actually materialised. What I realise now, was that this was serious trapped wind which caused me a week of ultimate discomfort and my craving for sparkling water was not helping matters. Generally speaking, if you feel like you are bubbling away in your stomach, and it turns out to be a panty whisper, or a build up of them, you are probably not feeling the baby kicking.

Asking my Mum

The wonderful thing about having such a wonderful mum is that I can ask her anything and everything, with no shame whatsoever… I can only hope that I have the same relationship with my daughter! So I asked my Mum. Afterall she has been through this 3 times before so theoretically she should know a thing or two about what it feels like and she gave me the most helpful advice ever “You will absolutely know when its your baby moving within you. Don’t quite know how else to explain it, but you will know when it happens”. Honestly? At first, I thought that this was not helpful at all- just a generic response. Seriously though, this woman is onto something. 

You will genuinely just know when you are feeling your baby for the first time- there is no mistaking it

Feeling your baby for the first time

As the old saying goes, Mother knows best. 

When I felt my baby move for the first time, it felt so unusual but nice at the same time. It was an odd sensation that felt a little bit like something within me was jumping about… but I don’t mean that to sound as gross or creepy as it probably did. I felt life within me, and not just my life, but hers. I felt like I was able to connect with her in such a way that was just too beautiful for words and it was like our own little secret since nobody else can feel her on the outside. Without a doubt I felt the baby move and I knew it right then and there. 

It is not a feeling that I have experienced before, but it didn’t feel extremely unfamiliar either because it is somewhat similar to the feeling of wind building up, without a pop.

Once it has started, it will not tend to stop, but it might lessen. I worried instantly 5 days after I initially felt lots of kicks and movement, as I felt a severe decrease in the baby moving, and I began to get round ligament pain which just made every single movement agonizing. I feared the worst so immediately got onto the phone to my midwife who explained that I should not worry about reduced movement until about 23-25 weeks  as long as it doesn’t stop entirely.  This is because at 18 weeks to 23 weeks, the movements can be erratic- the baby is still pretty tiny afterall.

To be honest, it feels a bit like you are developing tiny amounts of wind in your stomach, but it never leads to anything, just a smile upon your face as you realise that yes, you have just felt your first baby movement and you should dance about with her to celebrate!

What did you think it felt like for the first time you felt the baby move? Help other Mums to be to understand!

Feeling your baby for the first time

What is the First Trimester really like in pregnancy?

You’re pregnant! Its amazing, you are so uncontrollably happy and excited about what is to come! That was the case for me, or at least I thought it would have been when I would eventually see that positive sign on the pregnancy test. What came after the test was somewhat different from what I would have expected- and it got me to thinking… what is the first Trimester really like in pregnancy?

Before even Knowing for sure that I was pregnant

The realistic side of first trimester in pregnancy

I have to say that before I even found out I was pregnant, and before it was even an inkling of possibility in my head, I was going through a bit of a different and strange mental state. My emotions were quite literally flailing all over the place as if independent from my body. It was a bit of a worrying time filled with anxiety and dread when it came to my job and other personal problems. It baffles me now that the possibility of being pregnant never really popped into my head at that point, especially when I had a rather embarrassing breakdown in front of my boss about stress. 

Looking back now, it could have been SO obvious that I was pregnant just by looking at my behaviours and attitudes- it was so unlike me to be acting like this. It even got to the point where I was becoming so worried about my mental health that I booked a doctor’s appointment to talk over my anxiety and stress. The first trimester is all about the hormonal moodswings and emotions!

The initial shock of finding out

I always used  to imagine my immediate reaction to be super excited or super distraught… but what I didn’t expect was  the full on theme park of rollercoaster emotions that went on. You can read about how it all went by reading my Pregnancy Discovery post.

What was your reaction to finding the positive sign on the pregnancy test?

Baby bumps in the first trimester

what is the first trimester really like in pregnancy?
                     8 weeks                          16 weeks

It Might have been a bit pre-emptive when the day after finding out I was pregnant (1st December 2017) I was checking for a bump. Wishful thinking! I have always been obsessed with baby bumps and wished that when I was lucky enough to become pregnant I would have a cute little bump that I could balance a cup of tea upon (ah lets see if this happens) while munching on Jammy Dodgers and Rich Tea Biscuits, so when I found out I was pregnant I was already imagining a baby bump forming. It got even more ridiculous when I forced my sister to take a photo of me and my bump literally the day after finding out about being pregnant (this makes me cringe now, lol).

I knew that bumps were not an immediate thing to show, but being pregnant, I was just so excited to start seeing a change, afterall, how could I be feeling so significantly different within myself and not  show any change whatsoever on the outside? It was just bizarre to me!

My bump didn’t start showing til the usual 16 week mark, but even then I expected  it to be larger than it was!

Morning Sickness in the first trimester

As a bit of a pessimist, I expected my morning sickness to be one of hellish nature having heard all of the horror stories. I used to have a bit of a phobia of being sick and the thought of putting my body through something that would promote being sick on most days made me hate the idea of pregnant. 

My surprise reaction to finding out I was pregnant was partly due to the fact that I never once had a day of being sick or feeling sick- just mood swings and a lack of period. I always heard that being sick was one of the first symptoms of being pregnant and because of the lack of morning sickness for me, pregnancy never floated across my mind as a possibility.

Funnily enough though, I had my fair share of sickness the very next day after finding out I was pregnant and a few days after that it happened again. I wasn’t sure if my mind had just convinced itself to throw up, knowing I was pregnant and knowing that it was a side effect of pregnancy, or if it was actually a bout of morning sickness.

So I got away very lucky for morning sickness, but when it hit… oh boy it hit. I would walk around the city centre to work, covering my nose and mouth with a scarf, focusing so much on not throwing up, when all I wanted to do was barf up my guts. I have never exercised bodily control in such a successful way- and don’t even get me started on trying to control it when I was on one of the Glasgow First Buses to the city centre.

The good news was that the suggested methods to avoid or prevent morning sickness worked for me- ginger nuts before getting up and a cup of tea with some sugar, sparkling water, ready salted crisps and just remaining full at all times helped. 

Cravings

What is the first trimester really like in pregnancy?

I have heard of some of the wildest cravings EVER for women who have been pregnant. From a woman who craved lumps of coal, to a woman who woke up at 3am with the oddest craving of cheerios and milk, not in a normal china bowl, but in a carved out watermelon bowl… I was expecting to eat some of the weirdest stuff. My biggest fear being that I would start craving my most hated food ever… (and don’t judge me for this) cheese (seriously, this hatred of mine has ended friendships before because some people just can’t handle another me hating on their beloved cheese). Thankfully the only craving I have had including cheese, was pizza and oddly enough I love pizza so it wasn’t a problem.

I had cravings for Flaming Hot Monster Munch (I CANNOT GET ENOUGH OF THESE BAD BOYS), mangos, pineapples, vinegar, sparkling water (I used to hate sparkling water because it just tasted like spicy water without a flavour). Thankfully I haven’t desired a lump of coal or a watermelon bowl of cheerios and milk, so its reasonably easy to feed these cravings.

Aches and Pains

Sciatica, leg cramps, sore nips… these were just a handful of the aches and pains I have experienced during my first trimester and unfortunately these have all carried over to my second trimester so I am praying that they go away eventually!

One of the worst was when I had a solid 4 weeks of killer headaches that were so bad I couldn’t even sleep. The leg cramp I experienced a week ago was up there with one of the worst cramps I have ever experienced in my entire life.

Exhaustion

Ugh, this one was a killer during my first trimester, and it is extremely common. Its important to try and keep your iron levels up because feeling tired can be a common sign of being anaemic and being anaemic during pregnancy is a big thing to avoid if possible! Thankfully it has eased up a bit in the second trimester but for the first trimester, I was just a walking bag of snoozeville. The trouble was that I was on holiday for Christmas for 2 whole weeks which meant that I got into the habit of taking a mid-afternoon nap every day. Returning back to work in January felt a bit like a cruel joke. It was the most difficult thing ever to go through a solid 8 hours without being able to retreat to my bed half way through. Coming home from work,  I would be a crabbit mess and demand my bed before dinner but it wasn’t always like this thankfully. 

so… What is the realistic side of the first Trimester in pregnancy? Well…

The realistic side of pregnancy

What I have learned through my first trimester of pregnancy is that no two pregnancies are ever the same! Take it from the Mums who post on forum boards, blogs and even your midwife. Something that I experience could be entirely different from what you experience. Its quite to cool to think a pregnancy is such a unique experience.

There is no general side to pregnancy, so what might be realistic for me might be the dream of yours and vice versa!

It will all be worth the exhaustion in the end (plus a couple of months lol) and I cannot wait to meet my little bumble bump!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Congested Nose during Pregnancy- is it normal? Pregnancy Rhinitis

This is a disclaimer that this post is not written by a medical professional and that the hints and tips are of my own personal experience. If you are at all concerned about your congestion or cold symptoms please get in touch with your midwife/GP as I cannot be held responsible for any health problems.

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Pregnancy Rhinitis

Since about week 14 (today marks week 16, woohoo!) of pregnancy I have developed a slight annoyance in my right nostril. The feeling of extra hard and sharp boogers has me blowing my nose constantly and it can lead to very very light nose bleeds. I’ve even been one to unashamedly have a feel around with a finger (please don’t judge me… I’m pregnant) and become disappointed at there appearing to be a lack of anything of substance within the endless nostril. It begs the question, how long is my nostril??

Well my pregnant friends, this is common and should not be something you are embarrassed about- it’s Pregnancy Rhinitis. While it may seem like I am calling you a large, beautiful and endangered animal with a portruding horn in the middle of your face, I am not. Pregnancy Rhinitis is a common side affect of pregnancy which can cause your nasal passages to become congested or runny and it goes hard on whichever option it is to be.

Personally, I have always had a runny nose, especially when its windy outside or I have been running, without being pregnant- so when the plus sign appeared on that test, it didn’t really phase me that the running of my nose could just be my normal nasal patterns and nothing to do with carrying a baby within.

But something changed for me during week 14 when I felt that my left nostril was congested and my right nostril was full to the brim of boogers. Ugh, is there a better word for them? *searches the Thesaurus and finds nothing nicer* Never mind then, boogers it is.

How do I know if its Pregnancy Rhinitis?

Pregnancy Rhinitis

  • You will feel like you have the beginning stages of a cold, but that it doesn’t turn into anything ever ie your throat isn’t sore, your voice isn’t hoarse and you avoid other cold-like symptoms
  • You might feel a slight popping in the top of your nose and then a sudden blockage appearing at random points during the day or night
  • Your nose is running slightly more than usual
  • You find yourself carrying lots of tissues and running out of clean ones frequently
  • Your nose might bleed slightly upon blowing too many times

Why why why is Pregnancy Rhinitis a thing?

I hate to say it, but it is the usual culprit… hormonal changes during pregnancy.

A higher level of Estrogen can lead to a swelling of the nasal passages and sinuses which can lead to an overractive production of boogers and mucus. The tiny explosion sounding pops that can happen in the top of your nose could be due to the small blood vessels swelling up inside your nostrils which then causes you to be congested.

Oh Clueless Mama, how can I stop Pregnancy Rhinitis?

Well, I am glad you asked. It can start super early in the pregnancy and unfortunately it can tend to get worse during the later stages (please don’t shoot the messenger). The good news is that it should reduce the annoyance factor post-birth and then it should be completely gone within about 2 weeks of your bambino gracing this earth with his/her presence.

In the meantime though, you might like to try the few tips I have been trying desperately to help the rather dire situation to make yourself more comfortable in the nasal department…

Pregnancy Rhinitis

  • Prop yourself more upright when first lying in bed with pillows. Of course, sleeping during pregnancy can be hard enough already but if you perhaps lay another pillow under your head, the more upright you are positioned, the bigger the chances are that gravity will help you out- just be prepared with tissues on standby
  • Use soft, aloe-vera or Olbas Oil tissues on your nose to keep the skin around your nostrils lacking in the obvious pink colour and to keep the discomfort of dried out skin at bay. Your little sniffer will be left feeling soft and less abused by the tougher, sandpaper-y tissues
  • Take as many outdoor walks as you can without doing yourself in- the fresh air will help your congestion in normal circumstances
  • Steam your head every night before bed with a bowl of boiled water, a teaspoon of Vicks Vaporub or Olbas Oil and a towel to place over your head when you are breathing in the hot, moist air
  • Sleep with air circulating through the bedroom- open a window, or if its too cold, open a window of another room in your house and leave your door ajar so that you are getting some fresh air into your body while you sleep. I always find congestion to be the biggest pain in the butt at night when you are stationery and lying down getting ready to kip away.
  • Keep a tissue with a smudge of either Vicks Vaporub or Olbas Oil within it, fold it up and hold it within your bra, you will get occasional wafts of the menthol and it will help to clear your airways too.
  • Rub Vicks Vaporub under your pillows at night
  • Keep a jar of Petroleum Jelly or Aloe Vera nearby so that you can top up the tip of your nose with moisture

Things to be aware of:

Its important to know that if your congestion develops into other symptoms of a cold, you are most likely not suffering from Pregnancy Rhinitis and instead, you have been caught with the common cold. If you have a cold but don’t want to take any medication to ease it, please check out this awesome article about how to naturally cure a cold!

Keep an eye on whether or not there is any discomfort in your sinuses under your eyes and at the top of your nose as it can be common for pregnant women to get sinus infections and if you are at all concerned about it, please get in touch with your midwife or GP for advice. Do not take any medication that your Doctors have not suggested to you as you don’t want to harm the bambino baking away, so please please take care of yourself.

Other tips of Pregnancy

Click here to read my tips on how to combat the annoyance that is Dysgeusia (that metallic taste in your mouth) during pregnancy and click here to read about my mistaken miscarriage experience.

 

 

 

 

A Miscarriage scare… sudden bleeding and cramps don’t always mean a miscarriage!

A miscarriage scare

I only knew I was pregnant for a week before I had a miscarriage scare. I bought some Folic acid tablets, broccoli, so much other healthy superfood that you’d think I was Pop-eye the Sailor Man. I even started my Amazon wishlist in the hopes that I would stock up with everything I needed before the bambino would arrive. I started a new pinboard on pinterest to get my much-needed research done!

I was prepping myself for the excitement to come and napping during the day. This pregnancy was going to be taken very seriously as I wanted to make sure I gave my baby the best chance to develop as possible.

Miscarriage scare

The symptoms of my miscarriage scare

I was becoming complacent to the fact that I was pregnant and expecting a child mid 2018 and I was preparing my mind for the chaos to come when at work I felt sudden extreme stomach cramping. My thoughts were that this sucks! The great thing about being pregnant was the lack of periods and thus the lack of cramping (I get extremely bad stomach cramps that literally floor me during my time of the month)- why did I get the short straw? Then I suddenly felt it… (sorry if you are squeamish, I would leave now as this is going to become too much information soon). I felt that horrible feeling of my period starting extremely heavily and blood essentially pouring out of me. It was very disconcerting especially since I didn’t have any warning signs of my period coming and that was when it hit me… that this was not a normal “period”.

“a clot the same size as the palm of my hand had sunk to the bottom of the toilet…”

I quickly ran to the bathroom at work and sat down on the toilet before I felt something falling out of me and making a quiet splash when it landed (no it wasn’t poop- this is a serious topic so please just bare with me!). I didn’t think much of it but after peeing, I wiped and found there to be a fleshy clot sticking to the toilet paper.  Now, I have actually experienced something similar to this before in 2014 but I had no idea that it might be related to being pregnant as the thought of being pregnant never crossed my mind at the time. I wiped a few times and I was bleeding ridiculously heavily- panic began to set in.  I looked down at the toilet, without even touching concern of the unhygienic factor, I threw my hand right in there and swirled through the dissolving tissue to see the most disheartening view of my life. A clot the same size as the palm of my hand had sunk to the bottom of the toilet. This was what fell from me and at the sight, my heart sunk to the bottom of my stomach.

I had to go to a director’s meeting literally 3 minutes after a miscarriage scare and act like nothing happened…

The worst thing about this was that I was at work and I was literally just about to go into a 2-hour intensive business meeting with the company director. The pressure to keep composed was too real as I was sure that I had literally just miscarried my baby that I had already grown so fond of. Holding back the tears was hard enough but not carrying out my urge to walk out in a dramatic fashion was even more difficult.  I stuffed the dreadful image to the back of my head quickly and went into the meeting. You might call me heartless, but I felt at that point and time that my heart had just left my body and left me exposed and terrified.

After the meeting I came straight home and burst into tears within my partner’s arms. This was confirmation that my body was rejecting even the most innocent of things. My body betrayed my love, hopes and dreams and I immediately ran down the rabbit hole of despair.

I convinced myself that I didn’t know the outcome yet and I had to wait until my midwife appointment which was thankfully the next afternoon. I tried to suppress the feelings until then.

Heading to the Midwife!

Heading nervously towards the midwife practise down the road, I was eager to find out what advice they could offer me. When I got there I was seen 20 minutes later. The wait was agonising. It was the first thing I blurted out to my new midwife and the sweet lady tried to comfort me and advised me to phone the EPA unit of my chosen delivery hospital straight after our booking appointment.

I decided to call the EPA unit straight after the appointment but was left with no answer or a busy line. It was so stressful and the fact that I couldn’t get through made it even worse.

I tried calling about 75 times that evening before it became too obvious that they were closed.

I decided to call again the next day and I finally got through. I explained the situation to the midwife on the phone who urged me to come to the EPA unit the next day after hearing what happened. She was also convinced it was a miscarriage but didn’t confirm this on the phone. She also advised me to try another pregnancy test in the morning and if it was positive I was to still head into the unit whereas if it was negative then I should cancel the appointment as it was confirmation that the baby had gone.

The day of either doom or haven

The next day sprung up and I woke up at the crack of dawn to head to the grocery store to buy some more pregnancy tests. I traipsed back home exhausted but quickly as I was rather desperate for my first morning pee. Quickly I unwrapped the test and peed on the stick for 5 seconds. It was almost an instantaneous positive reaction. What was so odd to me was that I actually felt a bit disappointed and because of that, I felt tremendously guilty and like I was a terrible person. I felt like I got given the chance to get things fixed before we thought of having a baby and that this was a false alarm pregnancy.  I relaxed myself thinking that my HCG levels would not have returned to normal yet since the miscarriage so it was likely that I would still test as positive for pregnancy even if I had miscarried so I took the test with a pinch of salt.

I went along to the hospital and got seen by a couple of lovely midwives before I got my scan taken to ensure the baby was still there. This was the worst wait ever and I was only offered relief after the freezing cold gel was squeezed all over my lower abdomen and then smooshed over by the scanner. They never tell you how uncomfortable this feeling is when you have to pee, but take my word for it. I carefully watched the midwife’s face to see her reaction when looking around my womb for the signs of life. Relief washed over me when she finally said “Oh goodness you have a baby with a heart beat! Congratulations!” I thought I was going to pass out! How is this baby still there after I bled that much?

The baby was still there… still alive!

miscarriage scare

Even the midwife was shocked and had said that she was expecting to have to do some internal examinations and bloodwork to ensure I was still healthy following a miscarriage.

Even though I was feeling relief earlier when I thought I miscarried, I suddenly realised how happy I was that I had just found out my body was accepting this tiny blip of a baby.

The midwife turned the screen to face me and showed me around my own womb as if I was a tourist. She pointed out the fact that it appeared I had twin egg sacks and one was now empty whereas the other was full of a baby.

What was the cause of my miscarriage scare?

She suggested that the bleeding was as a result of the second baby having not been strong enough to continue developing and having miscarried, but it could have been a multitude of things. My body tends to do this strange thing where odd occurrences happen for no apparent reason and it leaves us all with somewhat of a question mark. She then printed out a couple of pictures for us to keep. I felt like I cheated the normal pregnancy! Most people don’t get their scan until 12 weeks of being pregnant, but here I was at 6.6 weeks viewing my little egg sack blip. It was awesome to peek into that secret little world within me.

So relieved, I went back home and we celebrated by eating broccoli and drinking ginger tea! We were back on track and I had some catching up to do with my folic acid pills and research. When I was given my midwife suggested reading books, I couldn’t bring myself to read it until I knew the situation for certain. That night I spent hours making up for lost time by reading books and my pinned articles from other Mum to be blogs. I stuck the baby scan up to the kitchen fridge and everyday since I have looked adoringly at it.

Have you had a miscarriage scare? Don’t fear the worst immediately! Head to the midwife or call the hospital for professional advice before jumping to conclusions

What is so odd to me now is that my whole body is giving this baby its all, working overtime and producing the baby’s vital organs, skin, hair and nails, a brain to store memories of a lifetime and the chance to learn how to love and I can’t even feel it happening. How can all the change going on inside your body be happening without you even hearing or feeling it? Without you even being able to even understand how complex the process is. It’s a strange experience! We are so much smarter than we give ourselves credit, ladies. Building a baby from scratch is just insane but we do it naturally, how awesome is that?

So the message here is that, if you have bled heavily at the same time as experiencing sudden and extreme stomach cramps, it can be tempting to point it towards a miscarriage (and it is a very strong possibility that this is the truth of the situation), however please do not immediately jump to conclusions.  Get yourself an appointment at your delivery hospital, talk to your midwife and seek professional advice immediately. While we are smart enough to produce a baby naturally, we need the professionals to confirm scary situations like these for us, otherwise we would drive ourselves crazy when we don’t even have to. Finally, do not lose hope!

If you have unfortunately suffered a miscarriage, please know that you are never alone. You might feel like it at the time as you have just effectively lost 2 hearts within your body at once, but you also have proven to yourself that your body is stronger than you might have originally given credit. Your baby will always be with you and you have been surrounded by its light when trying to mentally recover. My heart goes out to anybody who has experienced a miscarriage and I would urge you to seek help if you are really struggling with coming to terms with it. I am also always here for support if you ever need it from somebody you don’t know- I live to help others feel better.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Metallic taste in mouth during pregnancy? Yupp, its normal!

So the first trimester, as we all know, grabs you quite literally by the lady-balls and twists some pregnancy realism on you. Pregnancy is wonderful, I LOVE being pregnant, but there are some things that I could really REALLY do without. One of those being Dysgeusia, which is the oddly reoccurring metallic taste during pregnancy. 

What is Dysgeusia?

A lot of Mums-to-be can alleviate the nauseated feeling of morning sickness by munching on dry biscuits such as ginger nuts, crackers or Rich Teas, but what is a woman to do when there is some hefty morning sickness and Dysgeusia present? Dysgeusia is another gross side affect of the wonderful miracle that is pregnancy. It causes a pregnant woman to have an overbearing metallic taste in her mouth which has often been referred to tasting as though she has been chewing on pennies or aluminium foil. For some, it can also mean that the taste can increase the nauseated feeling because it can be so overpoweringly bad. 

Is Dysgeusia normal in pregnancy? I haven’t heard of it before!

While Dysgeusia can be a bit disgusting and difficult to get used to, its important to know that it is perfectly normal for a pregnant woman to experience. The reason behind most gross pregnancy side affects and symptoms can be drawn to usually one thing… Hormone overload. With the changing levels of estrogen in your body, your taste is changing just as much and its causing your taste buds to be producing some odd flavours for you. It doesn’t have to just be metallic flavours though, some people experience sour, burnt or salty flavours too. You might also realise that your sense of smell has been heightened due to pregnancy and this can also be reactive to your taste buds fluctuating.

What Dysgeusia was like for the Clueless Mama

I noticed I had Dysgeusia during my 4th week of pregnancy. It was noticeable because it was occurring after each time I ate something and it wouldn’t matter what I ate, be it fruit, vegetables, soup, the odd snack here and there, it would always strike soon after eating. Its almost as if my saliva was becoming more and more unbearable in my own mouth (sorry, TMI, I know!).

It made morning sickness even more of a difficulty because at first, the new metallic taste in my mouth was destroying the dry biscuits I was consuming and the new taste would make me gag more. 

Its not so bad though, because with morning sickness, Dysgeusia should begin to leave a pregnant woman after the first trimester. Its not guaranteed that this is the case but over the course of 8 weeks, I have to admit that the metallic taste has somewhat become regulated and a lot more bearable for me. Its something that I am getting used to because I know how to counteract the hideous flavours in my mouth.

How can I get rid of the metallic taste that Dysgeusia brings?

 

Dysgeusia

 

  • Lemon water – This worked miracles with me- just squeeze some lemon into some water, but make sure you use ice cold water to flush the taste buds. It seems to be something citrusy that always counteracted the metallic flavour for me. 
  • Milk- its important not to drink too much dairy, but if the metallic taste has stayed there for long enough, a wee glass of milk will help save the day!
  • Minty chewing gum- this goes without saying, it can refresh the taste buds, or you could try brushing your teeth. Be careful not to brush your tongue as its probably going to make you gag… those reflexes are not as great as they used to be when pregnant!
  • Hot and Spicy food!- Try something spicy (but not too spicy, you don’t want to bring in the good ole’ heartburn or indigestion!)
  • Vinegar surprisingly worked well for me! I thought this would make the taste more unbearable but then… I love the taste of vinegar so it seemed to work for me.
  • Some people have suggested eating pickles!

Dysgeusia is not permanent, you got this mama!

Its a very common pregnancy symptom but its not so widely known about, which is why I made the blog post to help calm your pregnancy nerves.

You got it mama, we are all in this together! Just keep in mind the little bambino that you are doing this for!

 

 

Discovering Pregnancy- My story

-Discovering Pregnancy-

30th November 2017. This date will stick in my head forever I think- I hope. Not to be dramatic but my whole life and mentality changed drastically on the 30th November 2017. This is my discovering Pregnancy story.

Nausea, a lack of menstruation and a whole lot of cat-ladyish moodswings suggested to me to get a test and find out. I never thought much of what it would be like to be a mum- in all honesty I believed that I would have so much time to spend getting my wild years out of the way before settling down to create a family, but alas- this was not the case. There were so many years where myself and my partner were not careful in that department, which caused me great worry about my fertility as I never fell pregnant and felt like there should have been plenty of occasions when I had.

-Discovering Pregnancy from a Test-

I have had pregnancy scares before though and have then taken a test and found it to be negative bringing me to somewhat of an impasse; was I happy or sad? Sure, I was always relieved to know that I had the chance to figure out how to look after myself properly let alone another, but I was also always a little bit let down by my body,  believing it to be impossible to carry a baby.

Discovering Pregnancy

So you can imagine my bafflement when I saw the little whirring wait symbol being replaced by a “pregnant” sign which was then followed by “3+ weeks” after weeing on the stick.

-Discovering Pregnancy and my Immediate Thoughts-

If my head was thinking clearly enough these would have been the stages of emotions:

  1. Oh shit
  2. Shit shit shit
  3. Oh my lord, I can’t believe it
  4. No way
  5. I better take the second test to double check *pushes to pee again but nothing happens*
  6. *stares at first test* Oh crap, what? Seriously?
  7. *squints eyes to make sure I am reading correctly* Me? Wow I’m amazed!
  8. I thought I couldn’t get pregnant, WOW!
  9. No way, this test must be confused
  10. How accurate are these things anyway? *reads the label*
  11. PRETTY FRIGGING ACCURATE!
  12. HOW THE CRAP AM I GOING TO TELL MY PARENTS
  13. HOW THE CRAP AM I GOING TO TELL TAMA?
  14. Aw Tama will be such a supportive Dad and baby partner
  15. I love him to the moon and back
  16. AND IM GOING TO LOVE OUR CHILD TO THE MOON AND BACK
  17. WHAT A BLESSING
  18. WHAT A WORLD
  19. WHAT A DAY TO BE ALIVE
  20. I can’t believe it *cries*

I ran through to tell my sister who was working away in the room next to the bathroom, by this point she already knew the outcome what with the tell-tale signs of my sailor mouth.

She was so supportive and it was great to receive such a great and steady voice telling me it was going to be okay. Meanwhile I was crazed, erratic and not thinking clearly at all! Bouncing from one thing to the next…

“I need to get my blog up and running properly to support our family on maternity leave”… “How much pressure is it that my actions right now could make or break our baby?”… “I don’t know when to tell people”…. “I certainly can’t go back to work just now!”

-Discovering Pregnancy and telling the Dad-

I ran downstairs to confess to Tama, who was sleeping, blissfully unaware, on the couch from his late shift the night before. Not even caring that he was getting some much-needed rest, I verbally slapped him in the face with this news… “TAMA WAKE UP” I shouted as I shoved the positive pregnancy test in his face.

He woke up slowly and his wee face was an absolute picture when his blurred sleepy vision focused on the positive result. He was so shocked and it confirmed to me that this was suddenly very real so I did the thing that any Mother-to-be would do… I burst into tears and became inconsolable for about 3 minutes before I suddenly perked up and excited myself about the topic again.

It was so surreal to know that I was going to be creating a life within me. Surreal in so many ways.

I now hold two hearts within my body, letting me love the situation more.

I very quickly booked an appointment at the Doctor’s surgery down the road from me and immediately made plans to get my life in order- who would have thought that this would be as hard as it was?

The rest of the day was a bit crazy- I couldn’t stop going on about it, Lord knows I tried and my poor sister must have gotten a bit fed up of me, but didn’t say anything other than supportive words. I just couldn’t believe it and I felt like talking about it confirmed the situation more for me. So many thoughts were rushing through my head.

-Discovering Pregnancy and my Afterthoughts-

By the time night fell, I was ready for my bed. My head was so fritzed that I began to go down the rabbit hole of negative thoughts, which is something that I frequently try to avoid.

What was so strange was that my whole life was going to change so drastically and while I had to just accept this and go with it, it was bizarre to me to think that everything else was continuing on the same way externally.

-Discovering Pregnancy-

Finding out I was pregnant was the beginning step to something beautiful. As much as our little blip is creating a mighty load of pressure on our situation (we have lots more than the normal couple to sort out prior to the arrival of our precious bambino), we could not be more excited and I am so enthused to be sharing this journey with the love of my life, Tama.

I can’t sit here and regret my choices in sexual practise 6 weeks ago because I am too happy about the prospects that lie ahead with this baby and while it may be a terrifying thought that I am missing out on travelling the world, it is the truth that my baby is going to provide me with some of the most amazing, love-filled years ahead of me and its all worth it.

We love you so much already little blip and can’t wait to meet you in 7 and a half months!