10 Ways for you to be Pampering your Pregnant partner

Pampering your Pregnant Partner

I think we can all agree that pregnancy can be a bit of a tough time for a woman. A lot of energy is consumed by our body preparing itself as an optimum habitat for our lovely bambinos. While the changes might happen invisibly for some time, it can definitely be telling in our attitudes and appearances. I can’t even begin trying to pick up the dark bags (that are so not Prada bags) under my eyes, or walking any type of distance with the sciatic pain that I am experiencing every day. The sleepless nights caused by my hatred of side-sleeping (being a flat chested non-pregnant lady, I traditionally sleep on my front without an ounce of discomfort because of my well… flat chest) cause me never-ending exhaustion.

When I say its “telling”, what I mean is that the people who are closest to us can easily see the toll that this special time takes on our bodies, mentality and faces. People like our partners.

Tama has been wonderful throughout my so far 32 weeks of pregnancy and it has certainly made my experience that much more special. I think what is even nicer about being treated like a Goddess during this time is that I know its not going to be forever… not saying that my wonderful boyfriend won’t treat me nicely after having had our little darling, but that after the birth, focus and concentration will be zoomed in on our little bambino and not so much on me.

Having a partner or friend pay so much attention to you so much can be a lovely feeling, and here are 10 ways for you to be pampering your Pregnant Partner

Pampering your pregnant partner with: 

Massages

Now, I don’t know about you lovely ladies, but this clueless Mama is blessed with seriously swollen feet and fingers after a full day of work all topped nicely with back, pelvic and hip aches that can make getting up from the sofa a tad difficult. Once I’m home from work, I tend to plonk myself down on the sofa to watch some Gilmore Girls, blog away, pinterest away and relax my aches and pains away. But when it comes to getting up to make some dinner, I struggle. Tama usually gets home from work quite late (he is a chef), but he will tend to come home, pick up my feet and rub away. Its. The. Best. 

Having my feet rubbed and massaged is quite frankly life-saving for me- I can’t even begin to explain the relief it offers not only just my feet, but my entire body. Seriously, even if your partner isn’t there, if you grab some moisturiser and rub the soles of your feet or if you are too big in the bump department at the moment, place a tennis ball on the floor and roll it under your feet; you will feel so much more relaxed and comfortable.

Painting her nails

I know, we might not be able to trust our partners to do a great job of painting nails… but with practise comes perfect and this can be proven in how Tama paints my nails. In my opinion, there is nothing worse than unpainted toe nails (on myself, so no judgement here for others), but with my ever increasing bump, I am finding it that little bit harder to reach my tootsies and it does feel like I put the brush down to where I think my feet are and just go ham. This results in painted ankles rather than toe nails and its not the greatest look in the world. 

So Tama took my nail polish and began painting my toe nails with grace and such a delicate hand. He had mastered the art of painting my toe nails and I was never going to complain about it. Just having one less worry for when you are heading out with your comfy sandals on and your toes out, makes the world a brighter place- especially in the hot summer months. 

Give in to her cravings

Lord knows, they might not always be the healthiest option on the nutrition cards. I would have struggled so much in my pregnancy if I didn’t get a chance to give in to my unhealthy cravings every now and then. Having a partner who didn’t judge the weird food combinations made it a wee bit easier to get some enjoyment out of it. Just keep in mind that she is eating for two and needs to get some fun out of it! So why not pick up a bar of that chocolate that she has been swearing off of for weeks? Or her favourite type of cereal? Its the little things that go a looooong way in pregnancy- I can attest to that!

Help out with chores

Nothing worse than coming home from a long day of work with swollen legs, a killer headache and an apetite that would Shrek would envy, and then seeing that there are dishes piled up high in the sink, or that the freshly washed laundry was sitting in a pile waiting to be hung up to dry. Make her life a wee bit easier by spending an additional 10 minutes a day on chores. I’m not saying you have to do everything around the house, but just by helping out with things like dishes means that she can come home from work and go about her business without having to stall to clean up. It makes a difference. 

Get her some comfy maternity wear

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerTama was actually the reason I decided to buy some maternity clothes so early on. I was happy with making do with my pre-natal jeans and trousers until they couldn’t fit anymore, but he could see that my belly was struggling with strangulation of waist bands and in order to protect the baby (how cute is he!?) he kept hinting to me to go shopping for some maternity trousers. I eventually gave into his demands and purchased the comfiest maternity joggers I have ever come across (I know I mention these joggers in practically every single post, but if you had them, you would understand, ok?). 

It was the sweetest thing too when he came back from a day of shopping himself and confessed that he was looking for maternity dungarees for me as he thought I would look “cute” in them. Fella’s and ladies, I am not saying go out and spend a tonne of money on maternity clothes (lord knows they are expensive), but even if you are out and see something that you think looks comfy in the maternity section, perhaps purchase it and bring it home. It shows her you were thinking of her and her comfort.

Don’t judge her for the endless southern winds

We all do it, pregnant or not… everybody farts. Don’t like the word? Then everybody toots/panty whispers/ pumps etc. It is biologically necessary for us to release our southern winds throughout life and pregnancy is DEFINITELY NO EXCEPTION. pregnancy brings with it, the many delights of excess wind. I can’t even begin to explain my embarrassment but secret gloating when I was stuck in a train full of people who refused to give up their seat to a pregnant woman and a toot came from nowhere (well, it came from me, and I think EVERYBODY knew it). That’s what they all got for not offering their chairs to me. 

My point here is that the pregnancy wind is something that is sometimes involuntary, and not only catches you as a spectator as surprised, but the mother-to-be too. Accept it and move on, some women can be mortified when it happens- if that’s the case, don’t make a big deal out of it. Others (like myself) tend to giggle away at them, and if that’s the case then laugh along too- they are pretty funny afterall. Just don’t judge/turn your nose up/ look disgusted- ain’t nobody got time for that. 

Have some Frequent Date Nights

Sure, she might complain about feeling like a whale… and a bloated one at that, sometimes. She might not want to do anything but sit with her feet up, or maybe she just wants to eat some snacks and watch a movie. Lord knows we don’t need a lot, but knowing that you are thinking of us when we are feeling down-trodden is a lovely feeling. Especially if you are going to the effort of organising a date night. Take her to her favourite restaurant… if she isn’t up for leaving the house then order her favourite take away! Buy some candles and run her a bath- it doesn’t have to be fancy.

Plump up her Pillows

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerNO, I am not talking euphemistically here. I literally mean her bed/couch pillows. You need your woman to be comfortable before she plonks herself onto the bed at night for her much needed rest for two. Help her out, just plump them up once in a while to give her that extra bit of support!

Spend some time in the bathtub/shower together

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerMy aim here is to suggest that it will be more difficult than ever when the baby gets here, for one of you to take a bath or shower let alone having one to share. Enjoy it while you can before it gets interrupted by the soon to be screaming cries of your baby. Run a nice warm bath, pop in a Lush bath bomb or bubble bath, light some candles and dim the lighting, find some fluffy towels and help her into the bath of dreams. Either pop yourself in there next to her and enjoy massaging each other and washing each other, or you can wash her hair for her while not getting into the tub/shower- she might be taking up most of the room and there is nothing worse than being cramped up in a bath. Its romantic, its sensual and its relaxing. These are all things that your pregnant lady will be wanting (well, these are things that THIS pregnant lady is wanting, so hint, hint Tama!)

Make the dinner one night

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy… make her some pasta or her favourite home cooked meal! Or better yet, bake some dessert and surprise her with your chef skills. I am very much lucky as Tama is a chef and knows what he is doing! If your pregnant partner is anything like me, she probably cant be bothered coming home from a long day of work and getting to cooking the dinner straight away, even though she may be famished. A little effort goes a long way my friends, and its important to remember that!

You don’t have to move mountains for a pregnant lady to enjoy herself with you; just make the small efforts and she will definitely be feeling pampered. The above tips are just simply tips that I believe would help me feel pampered, but if you have your own idea, comment them below- I would love to read them!

The Most Gorgeous, Delicious, Magical parts of pregnancy *no sarcasm intended*

Positives of pregnancy

With pregnancy comes the trials and tribulations of an expecting Mother. The body changes so drastically and quickly and there isn’t much time for bounce-back for most new Mothers, but the time that we have with our beautiful little babies living and surviving within us is so fleeting, its so important to really take a moment to appreciate this exciting time!

Here are the top ten most gorgeous, delicious and magical parts of pregnancy (for me anyway!):

Watching your body grow

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Your body is your temple… and when you are pregnant, it becomes a temple for your baby too. Its actually awe-inspiring what a female body is capable of doing, and how amazing it can be to watch the visible changes taking place during your pregnancy. Sure, you may be experiencing aches, pains, swelling extremities, but looking at the bigger picture, enjoy your belly. Enjoy your bump and your chubby ankles because once the baby is here, your body will be working overtime to get back to somewhere familiar and it might be a time where you are less than enthused about everything too. 

For me, watching my belly expand as the weeks go on has been nothing shy of magical. It allows me to know that my baby is growing inside of me, getting the nutrients and life support needed for her to grow and to me, that is frigging awesome because it is confirmation that I am enough. 

Feeling and seeing your baby kick for the first time… 

I made another blog post all about what it feels like for when the baby first kicks and you can read this here. Feeling your baby kick is evidence that you are growing a healthy little baby within yourself. How amazing is that? Its even more amazing when you can begin to see her cast ripples across your belly with her movements, or see in your peripheral vision miniature explosion-like bumps in your stomach. I frequently have to stop what I am doing just to pull my shirt up and watch her dance sequence- it makes me giggle and I can’t help but feel that much more connected with her.

The attention

FOMO

Its no surprise that everyone loves a pregnant woman. My partner has been nothing shy of  amazing throughout my pregnancy; my friends have been even more amazing than usual and my family are so attentive and caring. I am definitely not saying that they are not usually like that, but its even more appreciated when going through a time such as pregnancy. When hormones are flying off the handles; the body is changing drastically and fear and anxiety could be playing a huge role in your everyday life, its nice to know that you aren’t alone and that your support group are there for you. Also, I can’t count how many times I have caught an older woman observing my stretched out bump in a grocery store and smiles lovingly at me- without her even knowing me. Its just nice to be admired for something so natural.

The Excitement

Positives of pregnancy

Its so easy to get excited for when the baby is brewing away within. What is she going to look like? What will be our favourite thing to do? What will be her favourite season? There are so many questions that are riddling my brain when it comes to my baby girl, and its not only about how the heck I am going to be squeezing out a baby from my very own little vagina in just 10ish weeks. I am so excited about that first moment when she exits my body and is placed into my arms. I am so excited for bringing her home and introducing her to our Obie. I am so excited to get to know her and her little quirks and I am so so so beyond excited that Tama and I are going to be doing this together. It really is true when they say that a baby brings people together- we haven’t felt closer before than we have since finding out about our little surprise. My point is, is that even though there is lots to be nervous for (and I am under no illusion that there is LOTS), I am basking in the excitement too.

Stretchy. Pants.

Positives of Pregnancy

Need I elaborate on this one? Need I elaborate on the fact that I have not only purchased  pairs of maternity joggers for the means of being pregnant, but for the means of something to wear after feasting out on Christmas dinner, or for a really REALLY good lazy day? No. I do not need to elaborate- I am sure you understand, but if not then you MUST purchase a pair of maternity joggers right now from H&M. 

People wanting to look after you

Positives of pregnancy

Yes, I picture this as a scene of me lounging about on a gorgeous sleigh-style chaise-longue, draped with Egyptian silks and linens suggestively with winged eye liner flicking up my temples and my hair cascading shiningly down as I prop myself up on one elbow being  fed grapes and fanned by palm tree leaves.  Some relaxing music going on in the background wouldn’t go amiss either. Being pregnant encourages the people around you to be nicer than usual and to want to do things for you to make your life easier. I’m talking offering much needed foot rubs, shoulder rubs, hip rubs; hair washing; dinner cooking; dog walking; cleaning; pillow fluffing… you name it, people tend to offer. Its a very lovely side order with pregnancy and I am so so grateful to all who have helped make this experience that much easier for me by being so lovely and helpful!

The no-shaming naps

positives of pregnancy

You are building a human, which is thirsty, hungering and tiring work. You are entitled to your mid day naps. I know a few ladies who take naps during their lunch break at work. From being pregnant over the Christmas holidays, I had 2 solid weeks of being able to fit in an afternoon nap, but going back to work made me soooo tired. I think now, when I get home from work, I slide on the jammies, make some dinner, turn on Gilmore Girls to watch an episode or two and then promptly fall asleep on the couch until my other half gets home from work. I then go to bed about an hour later. The greatest thing about being able to freely take naps is that NOBODY JUDGES, making you feel less guilty about wasting away some of the day. You need the rest, girl… so take it when you can. Lord knows, it will be almost impossible when the baby arrives!

The trippy dreams

I have woken up feeling hyped for the day all because of the pregnancy dreams I am having, and I have woken up feeling great. Trust me when I say that you will never quite understand how trippy dreams can be until you begin building a human within your body. Dem pregnancy dreams be trippy.

NO PERIOD PARADE

Sure, with pregnancy comes its trials and tribulations too, but gals… NO PERIODS. Again, this is another fab feature of being with child. No stomach cramps from hell, no bleeding through to your trousers… NO MORE PERIODS.

Never Alone

Positives of pregnancy

The most beautiful thing about pregnancy for me is that no matter how low I may feel, or how much I might be experiencing FOMO when pregnant, I can never forget that I am truly never alone. I am with my child always, she is with me and that’s a beautiful, beautiful thing.

 

Unique Gender Reveal Party idea that You Will Remember Forever…

Well, I am now passed the 20 week mark, in fact today, I am officially 21 weeks! 19 weeks (roughly) to go till we get to meet our little baby! My guess is that if you have come from Pinterest, you are also at the stage where you are going to find out the gender of your soon-to-be human, and I am sure, like me, you are literally bouncing in your seat in anticipation for when the big moment comes. I wanted to share the surprise with my friends and family, so a gender reveal was on the cards… but it had to be a unique gender reveal idea and something that I hadn’t seen before.

Unique Gender Reveal Idea

Thinking of a unique gender reveal idea was bloody hard work… some people have been extremely creative in theirs overtime… best believe I did lots of YouTube searching to see what crazy ideas came my way and they ranged from the good old fashioned Balloon popping to a plane releasing coloured ping pong balls all over the party from way up high.

I wasn’t going to quite measure up to the plane idea, but I had an idea that involved paint, hands and a box and it was going to work. Gosh darnit, it was going to have to work.

My Unique Gender Reveal Idea

I had my 20 week anomaly scan on Friday 16th March and everything looked to be good. 3 words for ya, What. A. Relief! Is it normal to feel so nervous before a scan that you almost throw up? Its maybe just my pessimism that is playing a main role in my life when going for scans, but I always feel like they can show you the best news or the worst news. Thankfully, the worst news was not the case and we enjoyed the foreign feeling tour of my uterus, peering into the world of our delightful little baby.

The radiographer told my wonderful man the sex while I looked away from the tell tale screen. Tam is definitely one for holding secrets and maintaining a very mysterious aura, so he was absolutely in his element while arranging the gender reveal in secret. I was stuck between the fact that I was really wanting to press him for information but at the same time I only had to wait a day until myself and my family and friends found out so it wasn’t so bad- and I really wanted to make the gender reveal party that much better by being genuinely surprised!

I was toying with the idea of a gender reveal party for ages, humming and hawing as to whether I should do it or not. I didn’t know anyone of my old peers to do anything like it, so I wasn’t sure if it was normality in Scotland. I loved watching the genuinely surprised reactions of the parents to be and the “woohoo!” of the supportive families and friends within the viral YouTube videos, but I didn’t want to do the “normal” type of reveal so the thinking cap went on.

The Unique Gender Reveal Idea underway

I came up with the idea of getting a box, decorating it with my theme colours (pink and blue), buying 2 colours of acrylic paint (pink and blue), a long portrait canvas, and a scarf to blindfold myself. 

It took about 8 explanations for Tama to fully understand what was required of him in this reveal,  but by Jove he got it. He basically was the only person who knew what the gender was before the reveal (which was a fact that he loved to remind me of by the way). The idea that I had was basically that he had to pour the colour of the gender (ie pink for girl, blue for boy (sorry for being so unoriginal)) into the base of the box, I was to be blindfolded and he was to place my hands into the box, ensure they were fully coated in the coloured paint and then he would lead my hands to the canvas where he held them down so that my prints were made. I would then lift up my hands, remove the blindfold (or rather, get Tama to do it as my hands were a bit painted at the time), and to my surprise I found… MY HAND PRINTS IN THE COLOUR OF MY DREAMS…. Tama would then pick up the canvas and turn it round to the patiently waiting spectators and shared the reaction of happiness, glee and downright euphoria. 

The Best bit?

What is especially awesome about this idea is the fact that we have now got this canvas for a lifetime. My plan was to ensure my prints were pretty centred and to leave enough of a space so that when the baby came along, we could get their prints in the middle and Tama’s on the outside, and hang this up in the nursery as a momento of the greatest day ever. 

Sure you can use the good old balloons with coloured confetti, or the coloured cake sponge etc (I am not belittling any of these ideas, they just weren’t particularly for me!), or you could give it a good amount of thought to come up with something that will allow you a physical memory for the rest of your lives. I would highly recommend the canvas idea, I have a video just below of our gender reveal party 

Can you guess what we are having? All will be revealed…

Our Beautiful Gender Reveal party

Its a baby GIRL!!!

Now to think of names and buy a crap tonne of baby clothes. We are so delighted in this news and cannot wait to welcome our little honey bun to our wonderful little world. 

How to run your own Maternity Shoot! Soft and Feminine results.

Soft and Feminine maternity shoot

Maternity is one of the most spectacular stages that a woman can go through, and what is a better way to appreciate this time than capturing it in a soft and feminine maternity shoot to last a lifetime and then some? #nothingthatswhat

soft and feminine maternity shoot

Creating that Soft and Feminine Maternity Shoot

I am a firm believer in creating raw, realistic photos to really capture the emotion behind them so that when you view the photo in years to come, you are reminded exactly of the feelings you experienced in them. I don’t know about anybody else, but I would probably struggle to become my real self and portray my honest emotions in front of a professional photographer, so that’s why I would prefer to run my own maternity shoots. To me, maternity is a really personal thing that can be shared honestly with yourself, your partner and your little Bambi growing away within so personally, being able to have creative control over my own little shoots is incredibly important to me. 

Knowing your body, your angles and your colours are all factors that are very important in putting together your own maternity shoot (or any type of shoot for that matter), but it can be difficult to keep up with the changes of your body while going through maternity so its all a bit of a personal journey. 

So, here are my tips on creating the most magic little shoot to show your most soft and feminine side to share with your loved ones and future child. 

Colours for a Soft and Feminine Maternity shoot

My aim for these pictures was to create a very soft and feminine vibe and in my opinion this meant that warm colours needed to be integrated. I would hate to be the person to cause a rage by saying that I decided to go coral or pink as a “feminine” choice of colour, but for me, nothing makes me feel prettier. 

You also want to take into account your hair and skin colour. Generally go with the colour that makes you feel the most beautiful, but if you are going for a soft and feminine look, perhaps take the colours below as your inspiration:

soft and feminine maternity shoot

 

What to wear for a Soft and Feminine Maternity shoot

I decided to use some old fabric that I bought during a material store sale from a couple of years ago. It is a creased type of fabric and I have the sewing skills of a pigeon so I decided to just cut the fabric into strips and tie it around my body. What I like about this is that I can use the same fabric throughout my pregnancy and I can actually see how much I am growing over the weeks! So its not absolutely necessary to have to jump to the stores to purchase lacey long gowns, because this “outfit” literally cost me about £7.50 and look at how good the shots came out? 

soft and feminine maternity shoot

Lighting for a Soft and Feminine Maternity shoot

To create a soft and feminine vibe, you should try creating a creamy-toned light. Please note that I am definitely not a photographer by any means but in my opinion, the soft glow that appears “creamy” is the best option for this shoot. If your light isn’t natural and you don’t have access to lightboxes or special lighting tools, you can add a warm filter onto the top of a photo taken with camera flash. I also ensure I am wearing just enough highlighter on my face’s “higher” points, so that the camera flash creates the more “glowy” pregnant look that we all desire!  Wearing very minimal makeup with lots of highlight makes it look very natural and “glowy”, I mean can you see what I mean below?

soft and feminine maternity shoot

Your angles

Only one thing I can suggest to create a photo with the best angles… EXPERIMENT! Before your shoot, watch yourself in your mirror and take some lower-scale selfies. Find out which angles of your face catches the light the way you want it. Try to get at least 3 or 4 angles where you feel your most beautiful or radiant and stick with them! You will develop more angles that you might feel are more artsy or unique as you go through your weeks of shoots. It might feel a bit unnatural at first to set the self-timer and put across a “comfortable” persona but give it time and go through as many shots as you can before quitting! You will warm up eventually and this will come across.

Take advantage of your changing self and document it. You will never regret taking too many pictures. You can even surprise your partner with a gorgeous photo book of your self-run maternity shoots over the 9 months- this could make the most wonderful post-pregnancy gift for your loved one and can show your most intimate side. Don’t be afraid to be “racey” or “risqué”, because who is to say that you need to share it with the world if you don’t want to? 

Feel beautiful, take care of yourself and document your maternity journey… more shoots to come! This is only week 18 for me afterall!