10 Ways for you to be Pampering your Pregnant partner

Pampering your Pregnant Partner

I think we can all agree that pregnancy can be a bit of a tough time for a woman. A lot of energy is consumed by our body preparing itself as an optimum habitat for our lovely bambinos. While the changes might happen invisibly for some time, it can definitely be telling in our attitudes and appearances. I can’t even begin trying to pick up the dark bags (that are so not Prada bags) under my eyes, or walking any type of distance with the sciatic pain that I am experiencing every day. The sleepless nights caused by my hatred of side-sleeping (being a flat chested non-pregnant lady, I traditionally sleep on my front without an ounce of discomfort because of my well… flat chest) cause me never-ending exhaustion.

When I say its “telling”, what I mean is that the people who are closest to us can easily see the toll that this special time takes on our bodies, mentality and faces. People like our partners.

Tama has been wonderful throughout my so far 32 weeks of pregnancy and it has certainly made my experience that much more special. I think what is even nicer about being treated like a Goddess during this time is that I know its not going to be forever… not saying that my wonderful boyfriend won’t treat me nicely after having had our little darling, but that after the birth, focus and concentration will be zoomed in on our little bambino and not so much on me.

Having a partner or friend pay so much attention to you so much can be a lovely feeling, and here are 10 ways for you to be pampering your Pregnant Partner

Pampering your pregnant partner with: 

Massages

Now, I don’t know about you lovely ladies, but this clueless Mama is blessed with seriously swollen feet and fingers after a full day of work all topped nicely with back, pelvic and hip aches that can make getting up from the sofa a tad difficult. Once I’m home from work, I tend to plonk myself down on the sofa to watch some Gilmore Girls, blog away, pinterest away and relax my aches and pains away. But when it comes to getting up to make some dinner, I struggle. Tama usually gets home from work quite late (he is a chef), but he will tend to come home, pick up my feet and rub away. Its. The. Best. 

Having my feet rubbed and massaged is quite frankly life-saving for me- I can’t even begin to explain the relief it offers not only just my feet, but my entire body. Seriously, even if your partner isn’t there, if you grab some moisturiser and rub the soles of your feet or if you are too big in the bump department at the moment, place a tennis ball on the floor and roll it under your feet; you will feel so much more relaxed and comfortable.

Painting her nails

I know, we might not be able to trust our partners to do a great job of painting nails… but with practise comes perfect and this can be proven in how Tama paints my nails. In my opinion, there is nothing worse than unpainted toe nails (on myself, so no judgement here for others), but with my ever increasing bump, I am finding it that little bit harder to reach my tootsies and it does feel like I put the brush down to where I think my feet are and just go ham. This results in painted ankles rather than toe nails and its not the greatest look in the world. 

So Tama took my nail polish and began painting my toe nails with grace and such a delicate hand. He had mastered the art of painting my toe nails and I was never going to complain about it. Just having one less worry for when you are heading out with your comfy sandals on and your toes out, makes the world a brighter place- especially in the hot summer months. 

Give in to her cravings

Lord knows, they might not always be the healthiest option on the nutrition cards. I would have struggled so much in my pregnancy if I didn’t get a chance to give in to my unhealthy cravings every now and then. Having a partner who didn’t judge the weird food combinations made it a wee bit easier to get some enjoyment out of it. Just keep in mind that she is eating for two and needs to get some fun out of it! So why not pick up a bar of that chocolate that she has been swearing off of for weeks? Or her favourite type of cereal? Its the little things that go a looooong way in pregnancy- I can attest to that!

Help out with chores

Nothing worse than coming home from a long day of work with swollen legs, a killer headache and an apetite that would Shrek would envy, and then seeing that there are dishes piled up high in the sink, or that the freshly washed laundry was sitting in a pile waiting to be hung up to dry. Make her life a wee bit easier by spending an additional 10 minutes a day on chores. I’m not saying you have to do everything around the house, but just by helping out with things like dishes means that she can come home from work and go about her business without having to stall to clean up. It makes a difference. 

Get her some comfy maternity wear

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerTama was actually the reason I decided to buy some maternity clothes so early on. I was happy with making do with my pre-natal jeans and trousers until they couldn’t fit anymore, but he could see that my belly was struggling with strangulation of waist bands and in order to protect the baby (how cute is he!?) he kept hinting to me to go shopping for some maternity trousers. I eventually gave into his demands and purchased the comfiest maternity joggers I have ever come across (I know I mention these joggers in practically every single post, but if you had them, you would understand, ok?). 

It was the sweetest thing too when he came back from a day of shopping himself and confessed that he was looking for maternity dungarees for me as he thought I would look “cute” in them. Fella’s and ladies, I am not saying go out and spend a tonne of money on maternity clothes (lord knows they are expensive), but even if you are out and see something that you think looks comfy in the maternity section, perhaps purchase it and bring it home. It shows her you were thinking of her and her comfort.

Don’t judge her for the endless southern winds

We all do it, pregnant or not… everybody farts. Don’t like the word? Then everybody toots/panty whispers/ pumps etc. It is biologically necessary for us to release our southern winds throughout life and pregnancy is DEFINITELY NO EXCEPTION. pregnancy brings with it, the many delights of excess wind. I can’t even begin to explain my embarrassment but secret gloating when I was stuck in a train full of people who refused to give up their seat to a pregnant woman and a toot came from nowhere (well, it came from me, and I think EVERYBODY knew it). That’s what they all got for not offering their chairs to me. 

My point here is that the pregnancy wind is something that is sometimes involuntary, and not only catches you as a spectator as surprised, but the mother-to-be too. Accept it and move on, some women can be mortified when it happens- if that’s the case, don’t make a big deal out of it. Others (like myself) tend to giggle away at them, and if that’s the case then laugh along too- they are pretty funny afterall. Just don’t judge/turn your nose up/ look disgusted- ain’t nobody got time for that. 

Have some Frequent Date Nights

Sure, she might complain about feeling like a whale… and a bloated one at that, sometimes. She might not want to do anything but sit with her feet up, or maybe she just wants to eat some snacks and watch a movie. Lord knows we don’t need a lot, but knowing that you are thinking of us when we are feeling down-trodden is a lovely feeling. Especially if you are going to the effort of organising a date night. Take her to her favourite restaurant… if she isn’t up for leaving the house then order her favourite take away! Buy some candles and run her a bath- it doesn’t have to be fancy.

Plump up her Pillows

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerNO, I am not talking euphemistically here. I literally mean her bed/couch pillows. You need your woman to be comfortable before she plonks herself onto the bed at night for her much needed rest for two. Help her out, just plump them up once in a while to give her that extra bit of support!

Spend some time in the bathtub/shower together

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerMy aim here is to suggest that it will be more difficult than ever when the baby gets here, for one of you to take a bath or shower let alone having one to share. Enjoy it while you can before it gets interrupted by the soon to be screaming cries of your baby. Run a nice warm bath, pop in a Lush bath bomb or bubble bath, light some candles and dim the lighting, find some fluffy towels and help her into the bath of dreams. Either pop yourself in there next to her and enjoy massaging each other and washing each other, or you can wash her hair for her while not getting into the tub/shower- she might be taking up most of the room and there is nothing worse than being cramped up in a bath. Its romantic, its sensual and its relaxing. These are all things that your pregnant lady will be wanting (well, these are things that THIS pregnant lady is wanting, so hint, hint Tama!)

Make the dinner one night

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy… make her some pasta or her favourite home cooked meal! Or better yet, bake some dessert and surprise her with your chef skills. I am very much lucky as Tama is a chef and knows what he is doing! If your pregnant partner is anything like me, she probably cant be bothered coming home from a long day of work and getting to cooking the dinner straight away, even though she may be famished. A little effort goes a long way my friends, and its important to remember that!

You don’t have to move mountains for a pregnant lady to enjoy herself with you; just make the small efforts and she will definitely be feeling pampered. The above tips are just simply tips that I believe would help me feel pampered, but if you have your own idea, comment them below- I would love to read them!

Unique Gender Reveal Party idea that You Will Remember Forever…

Well, I am now passed the 20 week mark, in fact today, I am officially 21 weeks! 19 weeks (roughly) to go till we get to meet our little baby! My guess is that if you have come from Pinterest, you are also at the stage where you are going to find out the gender of your soon-to-be human, and I am sure, like me, you are literally bouncing in your seat in anticipation for when the big moment comes. I wanted to share the surprise with my friends and family, so a gender reveal was on the cards… but it had to be a unique gender reveal idea and something that I hadn’t seen before.

Unique Gender Reveal Idea

Thinking of a unique gender reveal idea was bloody hard work… some people have been extremely creative in theirs overtime… best believe I did lots of YouTube searching to see what crazy ideas came my way and they ranged from the good old fashioned Balloon popping to a plane releasing coloured ping pong balls all over the party from way up high.

I wasn’t going to quite measure up to the plane idea, but I had an idea that involved paint, hands and a box and it was going to work. Gosh darnit, it was going to have to work.

My Unique Gender Reveal Idea

I had my 20 week anomaly scan on Friday 16th March and everything looked to be good. 3 words for ya, What. A. Relief! Is it normal to feel so nervous before a scan that you almost throw up? Its maybe just my pessimism that is playing a main role in my life when going for scans, but I always feel like they can show you the best news or the worst news. Thankfully, the worst news was not the case and we enjoyed the foreign feeling tour of my uterus, peering into the world of our delightful little baby.

The radiographer told my wonderful man the sex while I looked away from the tell tale screen. Tam is definitely one for holding secrets and maintaining a very mysterious aura, so he was absolutely in his element while arranging the gender reveal in secret. I was stuck between the fact that I was really wanting to press him for information but at the same time I only had to wait a day until myself and my family and friends found out so it wasn’t so bad- and I really wanted to make the gender reveal party that much better by being genuinely surprised!

I was toying with the idea of a gender reveal party for ages, humming and hawing as to whether I should do it or not. I didn’t know anyone of my old peers to do anything like it, so I wasn’t sure if it was normality in Scotland. I loved watching the genuinely surprised reactions of the parents to be and the “woohoo!” of the supportive families and friends within the viral YouTube videos, but I didn’t want to do the “normal” type of reveal so the thinking cap went on.

The Unique Gender Reveal Idea underway

I came up with the idea of getting a box, decorating it with my theme colours (pink and blue), buying 2 colours of acrylic paint (pink and blue), a long portrait canvas, and a scarf to blindfold myself. 

It took about 8 explanations for Tama to fully understand what was required of him in this reveal,  but by Jove he got it. He basically was the only person who knew what the gender was before the reveal (which was a fact that he loved to remind me of by the way). The idea that I had was basically that he had to pour the colour of the gender (ie pink for girl, blue for boy (sorry for being so unoriginal)) into the base of the box, I was to be blindfolded and he was to place my hands into the box, ensure they were fully coated in the coloured paint and then he would lead my hands to the canvas where he held them down so that my prints were made. I would then lift up my hands, remove the blindfold (or rather, get Tama to do it as my hands were a bit painted at the time), and to my surprise I found… MY HAND PRINTS IN THE COLOUR OF MY DREAMS…. Tama would then pick up the canvas and turn it round to the patiently waiting spectators and shared the reaction of happiness, glee and downright euphoria. 

The Best bit?

What is especially awesome about this idea is the fact that we have now got this canvas for a lifetime. My plan was to ensure my prints were pretty centred and to leave enough of a space so that when the baby came along, we could get their prints in the middle and Tama’s on the outside, and hang this up in the nursery as a momento of the greatest day ever. 

Sure you can use the good old balloons with coloured confetti, or the coloured cake sponge etc (I am not belittling any of these ideas, they just weren’t particularly for me!), or you could give it a good amount of thought to come up with something that will allow you a physical memory for the rest of your lives. I would highly recommend the canvas idea, I have a video just below of our gender reveal party 

Can you guess what we are having? All will be revealed…

Our Beautiful Gender Reveal party

Its a baby GIRL!!!

Now to think of names and buy a crap tonne of baby clothes. We are so delighted in this news and cannot wait to welcome our little honey bun to our wonderful little world. 

Who is this Clueless Mama-to-be?

 Clueless Mama-to-be

 

I am Emma, a 23 year old Scottish mama-to-be. I am currently pregnant at 7 months. I live with my wonderful Malawian partner (the father-to-be) and our ex Romanian street dog (the scaredy-cat-to-be) in a humble little  Scottish town called Rutherglen. We have been described as the most chilled out couple known and that we were meant for each other. Our dog thinks so too.

Our baby-to-be (little blip) is due in August 2018 which means a heavily pregnant woman during the Scottish summer months will be on the cards (and waddling through the streets of Glasgow with severe chub rub of the highs). Yas. Oh, and this is also our very first child. Yikes. 

I have always had the problem of perhaps sharing too much information with people, but I figured that for this reason, I should start a blog about being an expecting Mother and then continuing it on till after the bairn arrives because… isn’t that what people love? To get the dirty scoop on others?

I can already tell you will be an avid reader… reading about my er glamourous and totally not gross journey  from being pregnant through to Motherhood and I am excited to begin this relationship with you (please note, this blog will be honest and trustworthy so it will most definitely be gross in some parts).

I already built and ran a blog about ocean conservation over at Merrymaid.org, which you should also check out as I update this as often as I can, so you will know that I am not a newb to the blogging scene.

I will always gladly take advice from other Mothers, but please appreciate that we are taking this MASSIVE learning journey and am going to try my best but things will inadvertently go horribly horribly wrong. The happy medium of achieving great things but also maintaining a healthy mind is where I strive to be so lets just all get along nicely.

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(Pregnant 7 weeks)