10 Ways for you to be Pampering your Pregnant partner

Pampering your Pregnant Partner

I think we can all agree that pregnancy can be a bit of a tough time for a woman. A lot of energy is consumed by our body preparing itself as an optimum habitat for our lovely bambinos. While the changes might happen invisibly for some time, it can definitely be telling in our attitudes and appearances. I can’t even begin trying to pick up the dark bags (that are so not Prada bags) under my eyes, or walking any type of distance with the sciatic pain that I am experiencing every day. The sleepless nights caused by my hatred of side-sleeping (being a flat chested non-pregnant lady, I traditionally sleep on my front without an ounce of discomfort because of my well… flat chest) cause me never-ending exhaustion.

When I say its “telling”, what I mean is that the people who are closest to us can easily see the toll that this special time takes on our bodies, mentality and faces. People like our partners.

Tama has been wonderful throughout my so far 32 weeks of pregnancy and it has certainly made my experience that much more special. I think what is even nicer about being treated like a Goddess during this time is that I know its not going to be forever… not saying that my wonderful boyfriend won’t treat me nicely after having had our little darling, but that after the birth, focus and concentration will be zoomed in on our little bambino and not so much on me.

Having a partner or friend pay so much attention to you so much can be a lovely feeling, and here are 10 ways for you to be pampering your Pregnant Partner

Pampering your pregnant partner with: 

Massages

Now, I don’t know about you lovely ladies, but this clueless Mama is blessed with seriously swollen feet and fingers after a full day of work all topped nicely with back, pelvic and hip aches that can make getting up from the sofa a tad difficult. Once I’m home from work, I tend to plonk myself down on the sofa to watch some Gilmore Girls, blog away, pinterest away and relax my aches and pains away. But when it comes to getting up to make some dinner, I struggle. Tama usually gets home from work quite late (he is a chef), but he will tend to come home, pick up my feet and rub away. Its. The. Best. 

Having my feet rubbed and massaged is quite frankly life-saving for me- I can’t even begin to explain the relief it offers not only just my feet, but my entire body. Seriously, even if your partner isn’t there, if you grab some moisturiser and rub the soles of your feet or if you are too big in the bump department at the moment, place a tennis ball on the floor and roll it under your feet; you will feel so much more relaxed and comfortable.

Painting her nails

I know, we might not be able to trust our partners to do a great job of painting nails… but with practise comes perfect and this can be proven in how Tama paints my nails. In my opinion, there is nothing worse than unpainted toe nails (on myself, so no judgement here for others), but with my ever increasing bump, I am finding it that little bit harder to reach my tootsies and it does feel like I put the brush down to where I think my feet are and just go ham. This results in painted ankles rather than toe nails and its not the greatest look in the world. 

So Tama took my nail polish and began painting my toe nails with grace and such a delicate hand. He had mastered the art of painting my toe nails and I was never going to complain about it. Just having one less worry for when you are heading out with your comfy sandals on and your toes out, makes the world a brighter place- especially in the hot summer months. 

Give in to her cravings

Lord knows, they might not always be the healthiest option on the nutrition cards. I would have struggled so much in my pregnancy if I didn’t get a chance to give in to my unhealthy cravings every now and then. Having a partner who didn’t judge the weird food combinations made it a wee bit easier to get some enjoyment out of it. Just keep in mind that she is eating for two and needs to get some fun out of it! So why not pick up a bar of that chocolate that she has been swearing off of for weeks? Or her favourite type of cereal? Its the little things that go a looooong way in pregnancy- I can attest to that!

Help out with chores

Nothing worse than coming home from a long day of work with swollen legs, a killer headache and an apetite that would Shrek would envy, and then seeing that there are dishes piled up high in the sink, or that the freshly washed laundry was sitting in a pile waiting to be hung up to dry. Make her life a wee bit easier by spending an additional 10 minutes a day on chores. I’m not saying you have to do everything around the house, but just by helping out with things like dishes means that she can come home from work and go about her business without having to stall to clean up. It makes a difference. 

Get her some comfy maternity wear

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerTama was actually the reason I decided to buy some maternity clothes so early on. I was happy with making do with my pre-natal jeans and trousers until they couldn’t fit anymore, but he could see that my belly was struggling with strangulation of waist bands and in order to protect the baby (how cute is he!?) he kept hinting to me to go shopping for some maternity trousers. I eventually gave into his demands and purchased the comfiest maternity joggers I have ever come across (I know I mention these joggers in practically every single post, but if you had them, you would understand, ok?). 

It was the sweetest thing too when he came back from a day of shopping himself and confessed that he was looking for maternity dungarees for me as he thought I would look “cute” in them. Fella’s and ladies, I am not saying go out and spend a tonne of money on maternity clothes (lord knows they are expensive), but even if you are out and see something that you think looks comfy in the maternity section, perhaps purchase it and bring it home. It shows her you were thinking of her and her comfort.

Don’t judge her for the endless southern winds

We all do it, pregnant or not… everybody farts. Don’t like the word? Then everybody toots/panty whispers/ pumps etc. It is biologically necessary for us to release our southern winds throughout life and pregnancy is DEFINITELY NO EXCEPTION. pregnancy brings with it, the many delights of excess wind. I can’t even begin to explain my embarrassment but secret gloating when I was stuck in a train full of people who refused to give up their seat to a pregnant woman and a toot came from nowhere (well, it came from me, and I think EVERYBODY knew it). That’s what they all got for not offering their chairs to me. 

My point here is that the pregnancy wind is something that is sometimes involuntary, and not only catches you as a spectator as surprised, but the mother-to-be too. Accept it and move on, some women can be mortified when it happens- if that’s the case, don’t make a big deal out of it. Others (like myself) tend to giggle away at them, and if that’s the case then laugh along too- they are pretty funny afterall. Just don’t judge/turn your nose up/ look disgusted- ain’t nobody got time for that. 

Have some Frequent Date Nights

Sure, she might complain about feeling like a whale… and a bloated one at that, sometimes. She might not want to do anything but sit with her feet up, or maybe she just wants to eat some snacks and watch a movie. Lord knows we don’t need a lot, but knowing that you are thinking of us when we are feeling down-trodden is a lovely feeling. Especially if you are going to the effort of organising a date night. Take her to her favourite restaurant… if she isn’t up for leaving the house then order her favourite take away! Buy some candles and run her a bath- it doesn’t have to be fancy.

Plump up her Pillows

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerNO, I am not talking euphemistically here. I literally mean her bed/couch pillows. You need your woman to be comfortable before she plonks herself onto the bed at night for her much needed rest for two. Help her out, just plump them up once in a while to give her that extra bit of support!

Spend some time in the bathtub/shower together

Pampering your Pregnant PartnerMy aim here is to suggest that it will be more difficult than ever when the baby gets here, for one of you to take a bath or shower let alone having one to share. Enjoy it while you can before it gets interrupted by the soon to be screaming cries of your baby. Run a nice warm bath, pop in a Lush bath bomb or bubble bath, light some candles and dim the lighting, find some fluffy towels and help her into the bath of dreams. Either pop yourself in there next to her and enjoy massaging each other and washing each other, or you can wash her hair for her while not getting into the tub/shower- she might be taking up most of the room and there is nothing worse than being cramped up in a bath. Its romantic, its sensual and its relaxing. These are all things that your pregnant lady will be wanting (well, these are things that THIS pregnant lady is wanting, so hint, hint Tama!)

Make the dinner one night

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy… make her some pasta or her favourite home cooked meal! Or better yet, bake some dessert and surprise her with your chef skills. I am very much lucky as Tama is a chef and knows what he is doing! If your pregnant partner is anything like me, she probably cant be bothered coming home from a long day of work and getting to cooking the dinner straight away, even though she may be famished. A little effort goes a long way my friends, and its important to remember that!

You don’t have to move mountains for a pregnant lady to enjoy herself with you; just make the small efforts and she will definitely be feeling pampered. The above tips are just simply tips that I believe would help me feel pampered, but if you have your own idea, comment them below- I would love to read them!

What are the Pregnancy Blues and how can you Overcome them?

Over the past few weeks, I have been a bit ashamed to admit it out loud, when I know I shouldn’t be. the pregnancy blues are a perfectly normal thing to experience, but I just feel slight failure and disappointment.

You see, being pregnant is a marvellous experience for the most part, and there are so many wonderful women around the world who don’t even get the chance to experience it. So what right does a 28 week long pregnant woman have to complain about her situation of emotion? Well, to be honest, she gets every right.

I have experienced the odd  occasion of feeling a bit bluesy, maybe even a little depressed and down beaten.  It won’t be that I feel sad necessarily, but there is a sort of sad atmosphere going on inside of my head that I just cannot shake. I go through these periods of time frequently throughout my life, but the past 5 months have been nothing short of perfect and blissful. 

So why is it that nowadays, 6 months pregnant, I find myself standing in the shower in the morning with no song to sing and just staring blankly at the corner of the tiles on the wall opposite me without a thought, or shred of emotion on my face? Is it normal to feel slightly… numb inside? Is the feeling multiplied by my intense hormonal mood swings? Perhaps! That could explain why I have those days where every little thing makes me blubber like a baby when I don’t even feel a tickle of sadness or upset, or anything really. Is it normal to feel slightly… numb inside?

The answer is yes. I would put it down to antenatal depression, but the thing is, this feeling is not a stranger to me. I have experienced this exact sense of “ennui” before, many times. But its nothing to worry about because everytime I experience it, it goes away overtime and I realise that it is only temporary. 

Still, though, I feel slightly guilty over the fact that I feel this way when I am carrying a miracle within me. I am filled up with 2 hearts beating away contently and sharing these beautiful “bump and me” moments. I am truly so so happy but I am just going through a bit of a rut, and that’s perfectly normal! I think adding the pressure of remaining positive and happy for everyone can be a bit too much and I think this makes the situation worse.

Overcoming the Pregnancy Blues by…

Eating Healthier

It seems like one of those things that everyone tells people to do, and it can make us question if it really has any weight of truth, but it does. Eating healthier, cleaner and greener meals and snacks can actually help our mentality! I found that by cutting out some of the crappier foods I was consuming from cravings, I regained a sense of control and felt better with less guilt.  It also helps me to think that I am giving my baby the best start to life with much needed proteins and legumes!

Pregnancy Blues

Exercising Gently

I know, I know… Exercising while you are pregnant is a bit of a difficult one. In my opinion and in my experience, its not sensible to do anything too intense, ie jogging as it takes too long to recover for me. I decided recently that I am getting back into swimming. Apparently swimming is a great, gentle way of exercising aching muscles and your weightlessness in the water can actually help to alleviate some of the pains. We got to stay fit and healthy some way! Exercising releases those endorphins that swim around your body. I always refer to endorphins as little dolphins of hope as I can just imagine them swimming about, flipping and spinning happily within your body and it automatically makes me feel happier. By doing some gentle exercise for about 30 minutes 3 times a week, you will be doing yourself a kindness!

Stop putting pressure on yourself

Its all too easy for pregnant ladies to feel guilty for complaining about our qualms. Over the past few weeks I have really noticed this being the reality for me, but it hit me that I shouldn’t! Growing a baby is hard work, and I think its a miracle that we can get through it, especially when aches and pains can get a bit too overbearing sometimes. We have earned the right to have a little whine every now and then. Read my thoughts on this matter by clicking here. By adding additional pressure to yourself, you are making things worse mentally. You are bottling up the weird unexplainable emotions that you are experiencing and that really is no way to feel better. Accept the fact that you are feeling low, but don’t let it become you! 

Pregnancy Blues

Know that it will all be worth it- write down your worries about the baby coming

Some nights when I was growing up, I would remain awake in bed for hours upon hours worrying about things that were outwith my control… school… friends… family… just the usual things that everyone worries about. For some reason these worries would remain at the front of my mind for hours upon hours and I would get no relief whatsoever until I got them down on paper. I know that not all people work the same way, but for me, writing my woes down helps me to express them, which relieves some of the frustration pent up in my mind.

With pregnancy, comes worry, comes anxiety and panic sometimes. We just have to find a way to deal with it so it doesn’t ride its way throughout the 9 months. What are your fears or worries about having your baby? The room available? The fact that your life going to change drastically? Being able to afford life? Note down your worries. Sometimes just getting them out on paper can help you realise that these issues are fixable if you give it some logical thought. Writing them down turns the tidal waves of worry into small, manageable and hoppable waves that you can overcome.

Speak to someone

If your thoughts are overburdening your mind to the point you can notice yourself getting quieter and quieter with those you love, maybe you can’t smile as much as you did during the first trimester, or you might find yourself becoming less excited for the little bundle of joy to join you in your journey through life. These are all perfectly normal feelings that pregnant women experience and its extremely okay to talk about without feeling judged. Avoid those who may judge you about these things and talk it over with your midwife, your partner, your parents, your siblings, your friends, heck… talk to me about them if you need an ear! Sometimes you just need to hear someone saying out loud that you aren’t going crazy, that the thoughts you are having are perfectly normal. Without sounding ridiculously corny, a problem shared is a problem halved and once I speak about the issues I experience, with my wonderful partner or family, I always feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Other parents will know exactly how you feel usually and might even be able to offer a bit of hope for you with their advice- afterall, they have been through it all before. 

Pregnancy Blues

Take care of yourself

This tip is one of the most important in my book. How are you ever going to start feeling happier if you are abandoning yourself? When the baby comes, you are not going to get much time to yourself, so enjoy it while you can. Enjoy the last few months that you will have before your baby arrive and take yourself out for a hair cut, or get your nails done… even better, spring out some cash and get a foot massage! If you are on a budget, treat yourself to a facial, a hot bubble bath, or purchase a lush bath bomb or massage bar and luxuriate yourself. This time is wonderful and its yours. Do with it what you want and enjoy it. You will feel better, more positive and happier soon. I promise!

Pregnancy Blues

Feeling your baby for the first time… What does it really feel like?

This is my first pregnancy, I am currently 22 weeks pregnant and I have felt my baby kick since about week 19. When I was waiting for the kicking to start, I was impatient! I couldn’t wait until I was able to feel the life of my baby moving around and exploring the untouched areas of my uterus. So, what is it really like to be feeling your baby for the first time??  

What does the Internet say about how it feels when the baby starts to kick?

Feeling your baby for the first time

I was researching when it is most likely that you can feel your baby move for the first time and I found out that it was supposed to be around week 18 and onwards usually.  

I was researching what it was supposed to feel like when feeling your baby for the first time and found that it was supposed to feel like butterflies, or a flutter  of little bubbles within your lower abdomen. 

I was researching how long it took until the baby kicks could be felt on the outside and be seen- and while I still don’t necessarily have a definitive answer for this yet as I haven’t yet experienced it, I read that it can occur within week 21 onwards so here is hoping! Update: I am now 22 weeks pregnant and I saw the beauty that is my baby moving about within me! Such an amazing feeling and feels so adorable as she tries to make herself more comfortable in there. While there are no feet or hands pushing out in an extra terrestrial fashion just yet, I can see little ripples and teeny tiny bumps when I can feel them now. Its awesome!

I am just so excited to feel every stage of my pregnancy, it is the most incredible journey that a body can go through and I am so beyond proud and happy to be experiencing it.

While I did a tonne of research, I felt like nothing that I read really indicated exactly what it would feel like the first time I felt the baby. Sure its true that in first time pregnancies, women can’t always feel the movements because they don’t know what to be on the look out for, but I was passionately convincing myself that any amount of “bubbly” sensations or fluttering was the baby kicking. 

My experience of feeling baby for the first time…

SO let me explain exactly what it feels like to me, and maybe this will help you to understand if what you are feeling is the baby moving (trust me, you will know when its your baby… you will just know). Remember, this is coming from a first time around Mama to be so if you are in the same boat, it may be a similar experience for you.

Diving on in

So at about 18 weeks, I began feeling a bubbly sensation in my lower tummy, but it admittedly felt a bit like a build of wind- you know the swirling and churning feeling in your stomach that you get right when you are about to release a toot? But the trouble was that no toots ever actually materialised. What I realise now, was that this was serious trapped wind which caused me a week of ultimate discomfort and my craving for sparkling water was not helping matters. Generally speaking, if you feel like you are bubbling away in your stomach, and it turns out to be a panty whisper, or a build up of them, you are probably not feeling the baby kicking.

Asking my Mum

The wonderful thing about having such a wonderful mum is that I can ask her anything and everything, with no shame whatsoever… I can only hope that I have the same relationship with my daughter! So I asked my Mum. Afterall she has been through this 3 times before so theoretically she should know a thing or two about what it feels like and she gave me the most helpful advice ever “You will absolutely know when its your baby moving within you. Don’t quite know how else to explain it, but you will know when it happens”. Honestly? At first, I thought that this was not helpful at all- just a generic response. Seriously though, this woman is onto something. 

You will genuinely just know when you are feeling your baby for the first time- there is no mistaking it

Feeling your baby for the first time

As the old saying goes, Mother knows best. 

When I felt my baby move for the first time, it felt so unusual but nice at the same time. It was an odd sensation that felt a little bit like something within me was jumping about… but I don’t mean that to sound as gross or creepy as it probably did. I felt life within me, and not just my life, but hers. I felt like I was able to connect with her in such a way that was just too beautiful for words and it was like our own little secret since nobody else can feel her on the outside. Without a doubt I felt the baby move and I knew it right then and there. 

It is not a feeling that I have experienced before, but it didn’t feel extremely unfamiliar either because it is somewhat similar to the feeling of wind building up, without a pop.

Once it has started, it will not tend to stop, but it might lessen. I worried instantly 5 days after I initially felt lots of kicks and movement, as I felt a severe decrease in the baby moving, and I began to get round ligament pain which just made every single movement agonizing. I feared the worst so immediately got onto the phone to my midwife who explained that I should not worry about reduced movement until about 23-25 weeks  as long as it doesn’t stop entirely.  This is because at 18 weeks to 23 weeks, the movements can be erratic- the baby is still pretty tiny afterall.

To be honest, it feels a bit like you are developing tiny amounts of wind in your stomach, but it never leads to anything, just a smile upon your face as you realise that yes, you have just felt your first baby movement and you should dance about with her to celebrate!

What did you think it felt like for the first time you felt the baby move? Help other Mums to be to understand!

Feeling your baby for the first time

A Miscarriage scare… sudden bleeding and cramps don’t always mean a miscarriage!

A miscarriage scare

I only knew I was pregnant for a week before I had a miscarriage scare. I bought some Folic acid tablets, broccoli, so much other healthy superfood that you’d think I was Pop-eye the Sailor Man. I even started my Amazon wishlist in the hopes that I would stock up with everything I needed before the bambino would arrive. I started a new pinboard on pinterest to get my much-needed research done!

I was prepping myself for the excitement to come and napping during the day. This pregnancy was going to be taken very seriously as I wanted to make sure I gave my baby the best chance to develop as possible.

Miscarriage scare

The symptoms of my miscarriage scare

I was becoming complacent to the fact that I was pregnant and expecting a child mid 2018 and I was preparing my mind for the chaos to come when at work I felt sudden extreme stomach cramping. My thoughts were that this sucks! The great thing about being pregnant was the lack of periods and thus the lack of cramping (I get extremely bad stomach cramps that literally floor me during my time of the month)- why did I get the short straw? Then I suddenly felt it… (sorry if you are squeamish, I would leave now as this is going to become too much information soon). I felt that horrible feeling of my period starting extremely heavily and blood essentially pouring out of me. It was very disconcerting especially since I didn’t have any warning signs of my period coming and that was when it hit me… that this was not a normal “period”.

“a clot the same size as the palm of my hand had sunk to the bottom of the toilet…”

I quickly ran to the bathroom at work and sat down on the toilet before I felt something falling out of me and making a quiet splash when it landed (no it wasn’t poop- this is a serious topic so please just bare with me!). I didn’t think much of it but after peeing, I wiped and found there to be a fleshy clot sticking to the toilet paper.  Now, I have actually experienced something similar to this before in 2014 but I had no idea that it might be related to being pregnant as the thought of being pregnant never crossed my mind at the time. I wiped a few times and I was bleeding ridiculously heavily- panic began to set in.  I looked down at the toilet, without even touching concern of the unhygienic factor, I threw my hand right in there and swirled through the dissolving tissue to see the most disheartening view of my life. A clot the same size as the palm of my hand had sunk to the bottom of the toilet. This was what fell from me and at the sight, my heart sunk to the bottom of my stomach.

I had to go to a director’s meeting literally 3 minutes after a miscarriage scare and act like nothing happened…

The worst thing about this was that I was at work and I was literally just about to go into a 2-hour intensive business meeting with the company director. The pressure to keep composed was too real as I was sure that I had literally just miscarried my baby that I had already grown so fond of. Holding back the tears was hard enough but not carrying out my urge to walk out in a dramatic fashion was even more difficult.  I stuffed the dreadful image to the back of my head quickly and went into the meeting. You might call me heartless, but I felt at that point and time that my heart had just left my body and left me exposed and terrified.

After the meeting I came straight home and burst into tears within my partner’s arms. This was confirmation that my body was rejecting even the most innocent of things. My body betrayed my love, hopes and dreams and I immediately ran down the rabbit hole of despair.

I convinced myself that I didn’t know the outcome yet and I had to wait until my midwife appointment which was thankfully the next afternoon. I tried to suppress the feelings until then.

Heading to the Midwife!

Heading nervously towards the midwife practise down the road, I was eager to find out what advice they could offer me. When I got there I was seen 20 minutes later. The wait was agonising. It was the first thing I blurted out to my new midwife and the sweet lady tried to comfort me and advised me to phone the EPA unit of my chosen delivery hospital straight after our booking appointment.

I decided to call the EPA unit straight after the appointment but was left with no answer or a busy line. It was so stressful and the fact that I couldn’t get through made it even worse.

I tried calling about 75 times that evening before it became too obvious that they were closed.

I decided to call again the next day and I finally got through. I explained the situation to the midwife on the phone who urged me to come to the EPA unit the next day after hearing what happened. She was also convinced it was a miscarriage but didn’t confirm this on the phone. She also advised me to try another pregnancy test in the morning and if it was positive I was to still head into the unit whereas if it was negative then I should cancel the appointment as it was confirmation that the baby had gone.

The day of either doom or haven

The next day sprung up and I woke up at the crack of dawn to head to the grocery store to buy some more pregnancy tests. I traipsed back home exhausted but quickly as I was rather desperate for my first morning pee. Quickly I unwrapped the test and peed on the stick for 5 seconds. It was almost an instantaneous positive reaction. What was so odd to me was that I actually felt a bit disappointed and because of that, I felt tremendously guilty and like I was a terrible person. I felt like I got given the chance to get things fixed before we thought of having a baby and that this was a false alarm pregnancy.  I relaxed myself thinking that my HCG levels would not have returned to normal yet since the miscarriage so it was likely that I would still test as positive for pregnancy even if I had miscarried so I took the test with a pinch of salt.

I went along to the hospital and got seen by a couple of lovely midwives before I got my scan taken to ensure the baby was still there. This was the worst wait ever and I was only offered relief after the freezing cold gel was squeezed all over my lower abdomen and then smooshed over by the scanner. They never tell you how uncomfortable this feeling is when you have to pee, but take my word for it. I carefully watched the midwife’s face to see her reaction when looking around my womb for the signs of life. Relief washed over me when she finally said “Oh goodness you have a baby with a heart beat! Congratulations!” I thought I was going to pass out! How is this baby still there after I bled that much?

The baby was still there… still alive!

miscarriage scare

Even the midwife was shocked and had said that she was expecting to have to do some internal examinations and bloodwork to ensure I was still healthy following a miscarriage.

Even though I was feeling relief earlier when I thought I miscarried, I suddenly realised how happy I was that I had just found out my body was accepting this tiny blip of a baby.

The midwife turned the screen to face me and showed me around my own womb as if I was a tourist. She pointed out the fact that it appeared I had twin egg sacks and one was now empty whereas the other was full of a baby.

What was the cause of my miscarriage scare?

She suggested that the bleeding was as a result of the second baby having not been strong enough to continue developing and having miscarried, but it could have been a multitude of things. My body tends to do this strange thing where odd occurrences happen for no apparent reason and it leaves us all with somewhat of a question mark. She then printed out a couple of pictures for us to keep. I felt like I cheated the normal pregnancy! Most people don’t get their scan until 12 weeks of being pregnant, but here I was at 6.6 weeks viewing my little egg sack blip. It was awesome to peek into that secret little world within me.

So relieved, I went back home and we celebrated by eating broccoli and drinking ginger tea! We were back on track and I had some catching up to do with my folic acid pills and research. When I was given my midwife suggested reading books, I couldn’t bring myself to read it until I knew the situation for certain. That night I spent hours making up for lost time by reading books and my pinned articles from other Mum to be blogs. I stuck the baby scan up to the kitchen fridge and everyday since I have looked adoringly at it.

Have you had a miscarriage scare? Don’t fear the worst immediately! Head to the midwife or call the hospital for professional advice before jumping to conclusions

What is so odd to me now is that my whole body is giving this baby its all, working overtime and producing the baby’s vital organs, skin, hair and nails, a brain to store memories of a lifetime and the chance to learn how to love and I can’t even feel it happening. How can all the change going on inside your body be happening without you even hearing or feeling it? Without you even being able to even understand how complex the process is. It’s a strange experience! We are so much smarter than we give ourselves credit, ladies. Building a baby from scratch is just insane but we do it naturally, how awesome is that?

So the message here is that, if you have bled heavily at the same time as experiencing sudden and extreme stomach cramps, it can be tempting to point it towards a miscarriage (and it is a very strong possibility that this is the truth of the situation), however please do not immediately jump to conclusions.  Get yourself an appointment at your delivery hospital, talk to your midwife and seek professional advice immediately. While we are smart enough to produce a baby naturally, we need the professionals to confirm scary situations like these for us, otherwise we would drive ourselves crazy when we don’t even have to. Finally, do not lose hope!

If you have unfortunately suffered a miscarriage, please know that you are never alone. You might feel like it at the time as you have just effectively lost 2 hearts within your body at once, but you also have proven to yourself that your body is stronger than you might have originally given credit. Your baby will always be with you and you have been surrounded by its light when trying to mentally recover. My heart goes out to anybody who has experienced a miscarriage and I would urge you to seek help if you are really struggling with coming to terms with it. I am also always here for support if you ever need it from somebody you don’t know- I live to help others feel better.